To all of you Mommies, I need some help!

[Meredith]

Picking a gift!! LOL So Mike's friend's wife is pregnant. They've been attached at the hip since they both got to Ft Lewis in 2005. I like Alex soooo much he's such a great guy. His wife and I are very different, not in a bad way, I've just never really gotten to know her very well and I don't know what she'd like let alone what she wants/needs for the baby....anyway the baby is due on March 5th and I'd really like to get them something nice but not absurdly expensive...which leads me to my question...

What does every first time mother need that nobody thinks to get them?? Like the one thing you though was MUST have...she's already had her shower and I don't want to get her something everyone thinks of you know??

[ReginaCherie]

i always say diapers, wipes, soaps, hairbrush, nail clipers. i got so many diapers wipes and soaps at my baby shower that i didnt have to buy any of diapers or wipes for 6 months and i didnt buy soap till rylie is was 18 months old. it made my life so much easier. and i always lose nail clipers so its nice to have extraz

[Kira]

That's a tough question because I got everything I wanted for my shower and then some.
Okay so you always need diapers, how about a diaper cake? You can make it yourself and it's not too expensive.
http://i288.photobucket.com/albums/ll186/Alxidaya/MY%20BABY%20SHOWER/MyBabyShower008.jpg

[~SaBrInA_lEiGh~]

id say a support pillow for when your holding the baby cause i never got one but gina is always lending hers to me and hayden loves it

Kira.... wow thats so cool

[Erin]

This isn't the cheapest gift, but I like to get The Miracle Blanket. Target sells them now online, and I think it's about $30. These blankets aren't very well known about, but they are amazing...hence the name miracle.

There's also the DVD or book, or combo of both if you can find it cheap, by Dr. Harvey Karp called The Happiest Baby on the Block
http://www.thehappiestbaby.com/
Most amazing technique for calming down a baby...


Does she have a registry? If you don't know you can probably do a search at target and babies r us, since they are the most popular. That will at least give you some ideas of what she does and doesn't have. She might already have a nursing pillow...since the Boppy pillow is the #1 asked for baby item.

[Kathryn]

I would go for diapers and all that stuff. For my baby shower I told everyone who asked me what I wanted that I wanted diapers! lol It worked, I was good on diapers for the first 4 months! Saved me oodles of money.

[a-m]

I would say diapers, wipes, baby wash, spit-up cloths, The necessities. When they are little you blow right through your supply. lol. I know it sounds completely tacky getting someone diapers and what not for a gift, but they help out alot! When my sister was pregnant, she had a baby shower, but everyone got clothes and toys. And when Skyla came, and she got handed down to me... the clothes and toys were basically worthless. She was either too little to play with the toys, or outgrew the clothes. But diapers get expensive, fast, so it's a great help to have the extra supply.

[Danie]

I got tons of diapers and it was nice! I also got the DVD that Erin was talking about, that was an awesome DVD and helped us soo much. I also got a ton of soap/wash/shampoo for Colton, I haven't had to buy any! I'm not kidding! I have some left that I'm using them on Kennedy... :cooler: It's great! You can put together a basket of things that you get. I liked getting those, I knew people took the time to get what they thought I would want and put it together instead of buying a premade box or gift...

Good luck!

[christina3019]

Hmm i would say find out what bottles she has and get some bottles and a sanitizer it helps SOOO much!!!!!!!!!

[Erin]

Before buying diapers, make sure she isn't going cloth or something...

[KristiMarie]

Diapers are always a good way to go... they get expensive and ppl dont realize it till they need them all the time lol buttt diapers everyone thinks of!

[~*Kandice*~]

I know as a first time mom i wanted a swaddling (sp?) blanket that was like predone. Because i couldnt swaddle worth a damn with a regular blanket. If shes using reg diapers. that would be a awesome thing..diapers and wipes. You go through alot when they are itty bitty. Boppy those things are awesome. I think they are expensive though...i loved mine. I dont really know anything else i dont really remember stuff that i needed. Diaper cakes are awesome. Just made one the other day for the first time...not as hard as i thought.

[Mouse]

If she already had a shower I would get a soft blankie for the babe and a few small toys to make a small gift basket. Then plop in a gift card. That way when they run out of something they have that little extra they can use for whatever they need.
I had a $50 card for walmart that saved my life when I needed those nursing pad things so you don't leak everywhere. If you do get diapers and she already has gotten a bunch I would get the next size up.

[erikalilly]

You could get her a boppy pillow. Everyone loves those!!

You could also get her some cute bath stuff - she might of got it at the shower but everyone loves/needs that type of stuff. Soft blankets are always a plus too!

Have Mike ask his friend what they need but not ot ask the wife so atleast it is still a surprise for the wife!

[Meredith]

I talked to Mike about it, he's just going to ask Alex what they need. She already had their shower and Alex was a bit of a dick a few months back (he was the one who was supposed to be Mike's groomsman but almost didn't tell him he wasn't coming). But guys forgive easier than girls plus I'm a bigger person than that so I'll get something they need...I don't care if it's a surprise lol she doesn't like me anyway so she can just have what I give her lol

[erikalilly]

He was supposed to be his groomsman and just didnt show up?! :(

[Meredith]

He was supposed to be his groomsman and just didnt show up?! :(

Yeah pretty much. Mike said something to him about 2 or 3 weeks before the wedding and he goes oh...I don't have the money to go. I was like uh...was he ever going to say something? He had agreed to it 2 YEARS before the wedding and I was furious he wasn't responsible enough to put a little aside for a plane ticket and then to basically not even tell him he wasn't going. (He owns a $4,000 watch!) Only 1 of 3 people he invited showed up...he was feeling pretty down about it. I could have smacked Alex for it...Chris too but when Mike finally got a hold of him he had a decent excuse...

And boys think girls suck!

[erikalilly]

Wow that is terrible!!! What did you guys do? Was the wedding party just uneven? :(

Your husband seems like a nice guy to forgive him cause I dont know if I would be able to forgive one of my friends for that. Especially if he agreed to do it so long ago. And its not like he was just going to the wedding he was supposed to be IN the wedding! I can honestly not believe that. Maybe the weird wife didnt want him to go! People can be so controlling sometimes in relationships. lol :eyeroller:

I dont know how to directly reply to you Meredith like you did to me! Sorry!:oops:

[Meredith]

lol thats ok!! It's the "quote" icon on the lower right hand of the little window that the reply is in...if that makes any sense.

And yeah I agree. I would not be speaking to my friends again...Mike asked my brothers to be his groomsmen instead so it was 3 girls (my 2 bff and our niece) and 3 guys, his best man (my FIL) and my brothers...so it worked out fine!! He was pretty mad about it for awhile..a lot longer than he usually is about things. And when Alex needs/wants things Mike's not the first to jump at it now. He's like "ehh f him. he didn't come to my wedding" lol...its really not like him to even hold that much of a grudge.

[erikalilly]

lol thats ok!! It's the "quote" icon on the lower right hand of the little window that the reply is in...if that makes any sense.

And yeah I agree. I would not be speaking to my friends again...Mike asked my brothers to be his groomsmen instead so it was 3 girls (my 2 bff and our niece) and 3 guys, his best man (my FIL) and my brothers...so it worked out fine!! He was pretty mad about it for awhile..a lot longer than he usually is about things. And when Alex needs/wants things Mike's not the first to jump at it now. He's like "ehh f him. he didn't come to my wedding" lol...its really not like him to even hold that much of a grudge.

I think I figured it out! Thanks so much for your help, you seem like such a sweet girl.

That is great that your brothers got to be a part of your wedding atleast!! I feel like now a days people are only choosing their family,and probably because of a reason like that. Family is always there for you, no matter what. Even now, I think about howI love Ryan but its still nice to spend time with my family since he isgone. I would be lost without them all!!

I hope you had a beautiful wedding!! I have 2 brothers too!:) Both older than me, one 21 and one 25. They are the best but a bit over protective! Do you celebrate your anniversary twice a year now?! Thats fun!!

[KristiMarie]

This isn't the cheapest gift, but I like to get The Miracle Blanket. Target sells them now online, and I think it's about $30. These blankets aren't very well known about, but they are amazing...hence the name miracle.

There's also the DVD or book, or combo of both if you can find it cheap, by Dr. Harvey Karp called The Happiest Baby on the Block
http://www.thehappiestbaby.com/
Most amazing technique for calming down a baby...


Does she have a registry? If you don't know you can probably do a search at target and babies r us, since they are the most popular. That will at least give you some ideas of what she does and doesn't have. She might already have a nursing pillow...since the Boppy pillow is the #1 asked for baby item.


What is a miracle blanket?? I just got a baby shower invite... I cant go its back home.. but i still wanna buy a gift!

[Meredith]

it's a swaddling blanket! http://www.target.com/Miracle-Baby-Swaddling-Blanket-Blue/dp/B000G0KQWQ/sr=1-2/qid=1234746698/ref=sr_1_2/178-3027281-7410040?ie=UTF8&index=target&rh=k%3Amiracle%20blanket&page=1

[KristiMarie]

I ask cause its totally on the wish list for my friend too!

[erikalilly]

Wow thatlooks great!! I didnt know the Boppy pillows were so popular! I went to a baby shower about a year ago and no one got it for her so I went out and purchased it for her because I felt like she should have it! Maybe they have changed recently! The blanket looks really cool though too!

Worse comes to worse: really pretty baby clothes!

[Erin]

The Miracle Blanket...oh man, let me just say there is a reason that it is called the MIRACLE blanket. I've yet to meet someone who has used and has not thought it was a miracle.

It's a swaddling blanket, and the only difference between it and the crappy kidopotomous, of swaddle me blankets, is that it's stretchy material, and has two flaps to hold the arms down.

We had it for lil M, and I just ordered a 2nd to use for Ryker...so we will have two. Because lil M would spit up on his, and I would be running around cleaning it so he could go to sleep lol.

[KristiMarie]

Sooo I have decided my friend is getting a Pink miracle blanket, one package of infant diapers... and 1 thing of Dreft (I think thats how you spell the laundry soap?)... dont know if her baby will need it.. but she has super super sensitive skin like I do so I figured I would get her some to wash her babies clothes in!

[Kathryn]

That sounds good! And that detergent is awesome! I used it for Lexie until she was like 6months old. Then I changed it bc that stuff is expensive! lol

[Courtney]

Even though she has already had her shower there might still be some items left on her registry. I always stick to the registry. Those are the things they really want. The most practical things are the best like diapers (but don't buy a million newborn - they grow out of those fast), baby shampoo, sensitive wipes (can't go wrong with those), baby first aid kit, etc. I'm sure whatever you get her she'll be thankful for.

[LisEva78]

I would say diapers (size 3 and up), wipes, A&D, soap etc. A small diaper bag, I registered for a really big one andthat is what I got however, I found myself buying two additional diapers bags (a really small one and a backpack).

Perhaps you can do a "neccesity" basket. You can inclue the things mentioned above plus disposable changing pads, wash cloths, lotions etc. I got something similar to that for my shower.

Good luck!

[Meredith]

Even though she has already had her shower there might still be some items left on her registry. I always stick to the registry. Those are the things they really want. The most practical things are the best like diapers (but don't buy a million newborn - they grow out of those fast), baby shampoo, sensitive wipes (can't go wrong with those), baby first aid kit, etc. I'm sure whatever you get her she'll be thankful for.

The thing that concerned me about both of her registries was that NOTHING was purchased on them and she's already had her baby shower so I'm not sure if that's stuff she still wants or if she has it and they just didn't take it off the registry. I think Mike's going to ask Alex what they need and he likes gift cards...then they can just go get what they want/need themselves. I know it's not as personal but I really don't know her...hence having trouble picking something....

[Mary Cat]

A gift card to a store where she can get whatever she needs for the baby! lol
I usually give those little cute hooded towels :)

[Katie]

BUMBO~!!!!!!! These are like Gods gifts to mom's.. & The tray too!! (They didn't have these when my kids were little) But I have given them at every baby shower and mom's LOVE these.
http://bumbo.ca/ Check them out. Depending on where you go you can get htem for usually around $25-35. They are really a godsend.