thats a first.

[ReginaCherie]

so scott has been having a bad week and just took the whole thing out on me!

i think im shocked more then anything. he never takes stuff out on me. it hurts. and in an email of all things.

all i could say back was im sorry i said something you took the worng way. and im sorry my friend sent you an email he thought was funny. and i hope it gets better. and i love you.

i just cant stop crying right now.

it SUCKS!!!!

we never fight, it had been all ok and now this. :tissue::cryineyes:

[Kira]

:bighug:

[KristiMarie]

aww girl. You guys love each other! Things will work out!

[ReginaCherie]

to make things better he said not to expect an email for the next couple of weeks.

it just sucks.

and all i can get from my friends is that i have to get used to it. i should not have to get used to him saying that he doesnt have to tell me he loves me.

[ReginaCherie]

ok im not handling this well. like i feel sick right now. it may sound silly and just blow it off and i know i need to but it bothers me. this deployment must really be getting to him because in the 4 years that ive been with scott he has only ever blow up at me like this. and that time i cried so hard i couldnt see anymore.

i just wish i could talk to him. but i know i wont for the next couple of weeks, not even through email. he dosent want to talk to me even if he could. he said that. he said he doesnt have to tell me he loves me. i think that part is what hurts the most. that he doesnt have to say he loves me. i mean i know he does, and i know thats not going to change. but i believe that you should always tell someone that you love them, cause you never know when it could be the last time.

i know im being dramtic. i know im being dumb and stupid, and i know im being silly.

but i cant help it. i feel like my hearts breaking. like im loseing him. and i know its just the deployment. but this isnt him. hes changing.

i just hope that my scott comes back.

[Kira]

I don't think your being dramatic, dumb or stupid.
It is never something you need to get used to ( deployments and such ), but it is something that unfortunately comes with the job.
Big HUGS and I do hope he figures out whatever is going on and talks to you.

[Kathryn]

Aww hunny, I'm sooo sorry to hear that. You're not over reacting at all in my eyes. When someone you love says stuff like that it hurts..really really bad. but it is just the deployment getting to him and he will def regret what he said when he really thinks about it. ya'll will be fine and I really hope he emails/calls you soon to tell you he loves you and sorry for being a crap head :) LOVE YOU!!!!!

[Belinda]

Ohhh, honey...:bighug::bighug:
I don't think it's something you should ever have to "get used to", but unfortunately it happens all too often with our military men. Just know that he does love you, very much. And it isn't fair that he's taking it out on you. But the one thing I try to remember when my man snaps is that in the military...you don't really have anywhere to break down. You can't yell and scream at your CO, and you don't wanna do it at the buddies that have your back...
So that means that us back at home get the raw end of the deal because all the frustration and anger comes pouring out at us. Should we just sit back and take their crap? No. They need to know it's not okay to treat us like their emotional punching backs. But we should try to be understanding of why it happens, and forgive them after they realize what they've done is wrong.
Hang in there honey, I'm pretty sure that he'll cool down in the few weeks, and by the time that he can email again, he'll be all "I'm sorry honey, I love you." As for what you can do...keep sending him emails, even though he won't get them for a while. Just remind him that you love him no matter what, and that you understand he's frustrated (be understanding without letting him walk all over you). And just make sure he knows you're always there for him.
I'll keep you both in my prayers. Hang in there honey, things will work out. You'll see.

[Mouse]

Regina sweetness it's ok. Not for him to treat you like that but its ok for you to be hurt and upset. He will think on it some and I'm sure he will apologize. The only advice I can really offer is what you say to me when Tom is bein a dink. Give it time and things will work out. He is just frustrated and not thinking clearly.
In the meantime I'm here with the rest of the girls to help you through it. :bighug:

[happilymarried]

Aaww honey..i am so sorry!!it hurt me when i read this!like i almost started crying..seriously,you are NOT being stupid or silly!!Its hurting you.And you never get used to hurt!Thats just not possible.I hope he will do some serious thinking and call or email you soon..and im sure he does love you.Hes probably stressed out.But still he cant take it out on you and crush you like this.i will keep you in my prayers sweety!Hang in there..maybe in the end it will make your love stronger and you will be closer then ever..hang in there.lots of hugs!!

[Kathryn]

Love you Gina!!!!!!

[ReginaCherie]

thanks girls i love you all!

so scott was up till 3 am so he could get back on the computers last night, he said that he was sorry he over reacted, and snaped. and he fianlly told me what was really bothering him.

i love that boy, he is my whole world. so im glad hes not mad at me anymore.

i thinked it helped that i wrote him a non stressfull email telling him all about my busy day and sent him the pic of my hair.

[happilymarried]

aaawwww i am soooo happy for you!!!you must feel tons better!!yaayy!!!

[Mouse]

so glad you got everything sorted out!
seems like most of the boys are gonna through an angry period.

[Belinda]

I'm glad he was able to get back in contact with you.
A lot of times, the boys just snap, then realize later that they really shouldn't have taken out us. And we smile, pat them on the head, and make them promise to buy us flowers later. (Or, Erik buys me stuffed animals).

[ReginaCherie]

lol yea he was asking what i wanted to do for our anniversary, he'll do whatever i want now lol.

[Kathryn]

I'm glad he emailed you. We told ya he would!!! lol You better thenk looong and hard about the anniversary! Make it a good one!! lol

[Belinda]

lol yea he was asking what i wanted to do for our anniversary, he'll do whatever i want now lol.

Hahahaha...oh honey, you milk that for all it's worth :)

[Cortnie DeNise]

I'm really glad things got worked out. When they snap for whatever reason it can be hard to just let it go and not deal with it. Thats apart of being Army Strong which is something we as their SOs have to be as well. It can be hard, but it can be done. I don't think you were overreacting at all...this is not easy, and I am just glad that things are better :)

[happilymarried]

ooo yaayyy!!plan a funnn annirversary!!