I deserve the attention!

[Lovey]

This is under vent cause I am venting but this also is a question too...

I was talking to Curt and I'd been talking to him for an hour. I put dealing with the kids on hold, skipped my dinner and gave him my attention. Finally I had to call him back so I could go get the kids to bed.When I got back, he chose to use the time (me still skipping my dinner and after I put the kids to bed early) to give him my attention to start talking to others around him.

I asked him what he wanted to talk about and why he was talking to people he sees all the time and he says, "I don't see these people all the time" so I said would you like me to go so you can talk to them cause I've put aside a bunch of stuff to give you my attention. He said he was waiting for me cause he had nothing else to say. So I told him that well maybe since the conversation he was having was much more entertaining I'll let him go so I can take care of things I neglected for him and I hung up. UGHHH

Now my Question:
How do you feel when ur S/O decides to start chatting with others around him instead of giving you his attention? How about if it's a female (since that's who he was talking to)??

I'm not usually the jealous type when it comes to females, but when it's on ME Time then yes, I do get pretty upset.

[KristiMarie]

UGH I HATE HATE HATE IT! Seriously you see them EVERY day... you don't see me all the time and it SUCKS. Its soooo worse when they are DRUNK and avoiding you too!

[Lovey]

and to know I skipped my kid's storytime for THAT makes me feel guilty and very pissed.

[Lana]

I seriously had a blow out fight with Nick about this exact topic. Never about a girl - because I am the jealous girlfriend and he knows I would kick his scrawny butt. :betternot: But no joke the first week Nick had gone to training he spent the majority of his time talking to his buddies while I was on the phone. And I would walk out of movies, away from dinner, I'd miss class, I'd stop at work, and I'd make my friends shut up. And he sat there and talked to his buddies. So I finally just started yelling at him and bawling my eyes out about how disrespectful it was.....:shrug: not the best way to deal with it.

Just talk to him. Tell him you know, he can talk to those people any time he wants - you only get to hear from him so often and it should just be your time.

[ReginaCherie]

oh i hate that so much. it used to happen all the time. not so much right now. but when he was living in the baracks it drove me crazy. you not in the wrong.

[Mary Cat]

SO this is why you hung up huh?

I really don't liike it when Matt does that to me. I'll be like "if you need to talk to these people then let me go so we don't waste mintues plus I have things to do" then he'll tell me he does3 want to talk to me so dont' go but then he keeps doing it! Not now that he's in Iraq but before he left he did it all the time.... annoying!

[~SaBrInA_lEiGh~]

tim used to do this he sometimes still does not with girl anymore but we just had to talk it all out

[Cortnie DeNise]

Yeah sometimes I can be like ummm hello this is our time to talk, and don't try and multi task right now by conversating with someone else. I don't think I would have hung up, but I would have tried to ignore it by maybe getting off the phone or starting a convo. Let a few days past and then see how things are.

[a-m]

yeaaaa, Yvain is guilty of it too. I just kept talking and if he said 'huh' or asked what I just said, I would tell him I refused to repeat it cuz he should have been listening in the first place... I would always say something random and completely untrue though, just to get his attention.

[Lana]

I've found pushing buttons also is a good attention grabber.

[~SaBrInA_lEiGh~]

i like A-Ms tingy plan whatever it is

[~SaBrInA_lEiGh~]

lana thats funny

[Kira]

My hubby did this exact same thing tonight. OK so I'm spoiled now and have talked to him everyday since he graduated BCT. He called me tonight then ignored me because his "buddies" were around and he started acting different so I got upset and he thinks I have a problem.

[~SaBrInA_lEiGh~]

kira thats just how tim was it will only get better

[Lovey]

He used to do it when he lived at Ft. Lewis too. I've done what A-M did and just kept on talkin. Of course he'd get all butt hurt when I wouldn't repeat what I said. It's not like I don't talkt to him almost every day and he's the one who always calls during the busiest part of the day....dinner time. So at least he can not waste my time. We talk over the internet for free, so I don't feel bad hanging up on him. lol

[Kathryn]

I would be pissy too if that happen. Surprisingly this really hasn't happen to me yet. WHen he was in Hawaii he use to call me from his buddies cell phones and they would be out doing something and he would really only talked to me. Lol Of course the past few weeks we have only talked ONE time so I got the full FIVE MINUTES of his undivided attention. (Stupid satellite phones!!!) Of course this day will probably come...

[MrsJoey]

this happens alot-to everyone i think. joey used todo it when he was in germany and it drove me up the wall-id just try to get off the phone and told him to call me when he felt like talking to ME...usually he'd get the hint ;)
since hes been in iraq its not really that way anymore.

just gotta kinda put your foot down about it. im sure when hes back in germany ill be dealing with this all over again! dumb boys!

[Belinda]

My opinion is that if he talks to other people while I'm on the phone with him, he'd better not bitch when I do the same thing. Of course, he's stateside for training, so I can talk to him a lot, which helps.

[Mouse]

Ugh yea I hate that! Tom does it too. Not so much right now but when he is on base almost every time he calls he is yapping to other people. I turn up the tv or music until I can hardly hear him. That usually gets his attention. I thought it was just him that did stupid stuff like that.

[dawgangel24]

I feel ya'lls pain...especially when they are overseas cause minutes are soooo expensive!!