I'd just be my luck, wouldnt it?

[Lauren_USMC_love]

So turns out I most likely wont be seeing my boyfriend face to face until next year around March....A WHOLE FREAKIN' YEAR!!! Are you serious? He's gonna be gone training for over a month and completes that set of training 3 days before I leave for boot camp, and one of those days you cant count cuz I'll be at MEPS all day and shipping out. So technically 2 days! Oh, and then to add to that crappyness he wont be able to see my graduation cuz he'll most likely be deployed by that day. FML! I just wanna cry and scream. Yell at the top of my lungs. I'm dying inside, that's what it feels like. I know him and I can still make it. I'm not going to give up on us, just b/c I wont see him. I'm not like some girls I know, but still. Really? Was it written somewhere on my birth certificate "Lauren Elise "is gonna have bad luck for all her life" Lidy"? Cuz thats what it feels like. I'm just begging God I get to see him before that time comes. Before he leaves for training and starts the chain reaction of busy-ness for both of us in the military. :beggin: I don't know what to do. I feel so helpless. I'm crying now just writing this. AAHHHHHH!!!!!

[Kira]

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I'm so sorry, I know it's cliche, but you are strong and you can do this!

[Lauren_USMC_love]

thanks. its the thought that counts. im gonna need you girls more than ever. at least ill be away training thoughout most of our seperation so thatll keep my mind busy, but still. this just sucks. you ever have the times when you just look up into the sky and ask God "Really? Are you serious?" ? Cuz Im totally having one of those moments now. Im sorry for sounding all whiney. I just dont know what else to do and its not healty to bottle it all up inside...so Im venting.

[Mouse]

Seriously let it out. Thats why we're here. For the good stuff and the bad. I'm so sorry everything is timing out like that for you. Hopefully it will change so you guys can see each other even if it's just for a day. :bighug:

[KristiMarie]

aww girl I know how you feel. Trust me. JM comes home when I am super busy with army stuff. The one summer I am NOT here at all because of training, he comes home then... I really wanted to go to Germany or Italy for my nursing stuff for a month, but I am going to request fort bliss instead so I can see him... yeah I am crazy lol


Things will work out girl! Its the military for you... but it will all be ok!

[Lauren_USMC_love]

thanks girls! Right now Im just trying to soak up the time I can to talk to him and webcam with him. I'm so about to just find a way to buy a plane ticket, skip school for a few days, and go visit him in Cali before he leaves for more training...ugh...He got to call back last night and we talked about it b/c he knew it was bugging me. We talked out both our frustrations about it and came to the conclusion we still love each and are gonna make it work and try to look at the positives of it. Blah! Thanks ya'll for the support! You're all amazing! I dont know what Id do without you!!

[KristiMarie]

skip class then! lol im sure your teachers will understand! what about a weekend? Could you leave friday after class and come back sunday night?

[Lauren_USMC_love]

i guess. it also depends on them and what they are doing there. I dont wanna go there and not be able to spend time with him...ugh...sometimes the military frustrates me.

[snwalways41903]

im so sorry hun! i know it sucks, and i hope things work out where you get to see each other! good luck with everything!

[Mary Cat]

If you think it's frustrating now wait until you're married in the military, dealign with the deployment and actually in the military yourself lol
It's going to get harder, guarenteed but if you two love each other, you'll find a way to make it work
I think visiting him would be a good idea or push back leaveing for boot by a week or so, that way you can see him

[Lisa]

I'm sorry.. but you should really talk to Danie about this because she and her husband were both in the Navy (I'm pretty sure that's how they met) and I think she'd be able to help you more than I would. Other than that, you should try and see if theres a way yall can see each other for those 3 days.. if you talk to your recruiter and explain the situation, they might be willing to let you skip MEPS and meet them up in the morning... or something..

[Lauren_USMC_love]

i wish i could push back going to boot. I originally was going to leave at the end of Jan., but i wanted to finish my 1st yr here at college so it got pushed back to late May. *sigh* It's gonna be rough, we both kinda already figured that when we started dating, but i dont know. Going a year without seeing him and only really tlking thru snail-mail and pictures. We do really love each other, theres no doubt in my mind about that...it's just gonna be a testing 1st year together. Thank you ladies so much for listening to me vent. At least you all understand what Im going through. None of my friends here do. Thanks!

[Spahr]

Well if you make it thru this first year I'm sure you will be able to make it thru ANYTHING! I know it's going to be rough and there will be some days you'll just want to throw in the towel but u can always come scream and yell at us! We're good for that!

[Lauren_USMC_love]

*tear* thank you ladies so much! i love you gals!

[Danie]

Hey girl...

I got your message... and I understand completely what you are going thru...

Here's our story... it might help you plan, and deal...

I joined the Navy in Sept'00. I went thru boot, got to school in Pensacola, and met my husband. We dated all thru school, he got orders to Virginia, and I got orders to Washington state. A week after getting to Washington I went on my first deployment (June '01). I was gone for 6 months, and we dated the entire time. We mailed letters, packages, sent emails and talked. I got home before Thanksgiving of 2001, and took leave for Christmas. He met me at my mom's place, and we spent the entire break together. He proposed to me on New Years night, and we got married on Jan 2, 2002. We debated on what would be best... considering we were stationed on separate coasts. Getting married was the best way we could 'be' together. Once we got back to our stations, he soon got orders to transfer to Washington, and he showed up about 11 months after we got married (Dec '02) I was on deployment when he got to Washington. We finally lived together for the first time in June '03, when I returned from deployment. We were together for a year, and I left for my 3rd (and final) deployment in May '04. I returned November '04 and we bought our first house in Jan '05. We got preggo with our son in April '05 and I transferred to shore duty in Sept'05. Evan transferred to sea duty late '04 and after we bought our house in '05 he left for deployment missing my entire pregnancy. He made it home on Dec 23, 2005 (my birthday) and we had our son in Jan '06. He left a year and 3 days later for deployment #2, and then 9 months after returning from that deployment he left for deployment #3, and missed the birth of Kennedy. I got out of the Navy in December '08, and we are now on shore duty in Florida.

I only tell you my story to help you. It's a choice. It's a hard choice. However, it was the best choice for us. It's not always a good choice for other couples. Many end up divorced after their first deployment.

You can talk to the recruiters about moving your leave date back, but you may lose your job, and or they may not have an opening for a female for a while... so it's a 50-50 chance... But once again, it's a choice you'll have to make.

I hope that it works out for you... If there is anything else I can help you with, let me know... I have a lot of info, and my brain goes nuts sometimes... so I may forget something.
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