I'm just....ughhhhh

[Belinda]

So Erik just graduated AIT and is moving bases...and he was initially told he'd get about a month off in between. Well, he got official orders today...and he has a day in between, which is going to be spent traveling. And he's frustrated, which I understand...but he's also taking it out on me, which I'm not so happy about.
This evening we're talking on messenger and I mention that I'm happy to talk to him, and he replies "Why? We either fight or I feed you the same romantic stuff I always tell you." And I got upset, and he got upset, and he tells me he has to go to formation and signs off on me.
I love him so much, but I'm just so frustrated with the fact that he keeps taking his stress out on me. We never used to argue like we have been lately... :cryineyes:

[Cortnie DeNise]

Those frequent arguments that have no point are not cool. They have their bad days and whatever you can do just try and avoid starting an argument even if they are neg just say something pos. Let him know you love him and give him some time to himself to get it out of his system...sometimes they just need some quiet time....I know easier said than done. Keep your head up and if anybody can relate it would be us here at MTMH. :bighug: :bighug: :bighug: If you pray...pray for him and yourself :)

[Lana]

Oh men. Don't they suck sometimes? I'm sorry, lady. Just try to talk to him calmly about it. I know sometimes that backfires.... but it's not fair for him to keep taking things out on you. :( I'm sorry.

[dawgangel24]

Ugh I feel your pain...I think our guys take a lot of frustration out on us because they know we will be there for them. We know them the best and they trust us. No, it's not cool at all, but he's just gotta grow a thicker skin because he's gonna need it. He's just starting out, things will get better, get worse, it will fluctuate, it's a true test of how strong you two are. Just keep going at it, it's worth it, trust me!

[Mouse]

Man this stuff is contagious or something! I'm sorry you guys are having a hard time but it will pass. I'm pretty sure the girls are right like usual. This is such a hard thing to get through but you can pull it off.

[~SaBrInA_lEiGh~]

see i waited it out and gave him time and it did backfire... so i did the opposite of whateveryone is saying and i ignored him for a few days i answered the fist text then said i had to go and wouldnt right back he saw how bad it hurt and how he made me feel and it worked now every once in a while i just have to tell him excuss me... it just took me to grow a pair again

[Nuky Loves Nue]

I'm sorry he is acting like that. No, you don't deserve to be walked on. You are not a doormat! There has to be a happy medium. Every guy is different. I do agree with Lora. Men are not men, they are little boys. They throw their fits and we are the ones to catch them. When they are bothered, we get the brunt of it. All we can do is listen and make sure they know that we are here. With my husband, I listen to what he has to say. So long as he is not disrespectful to me, I will listen and be supportive. If he is disrespectful, I will make sure he knows that is not going to happen. For the most part though, it is just hot air that he is blowing and he doesn't mean it. It goes in one ear and out the other.

[Christy]

Oh Belinda! I'm sorry girlie!!! Just be patient!! :bighug:

[Kira]

I am sorry he's taking his frustrations out on you. I am sure he doesn't mean it just sometimes we as humans take out our anger on the wrong people kwim? I think once he moves and settles down again things will be better for you guys.

[Mary Cat]

IDK why, but during Matt's AIT and the end of it we had a lot more arguements and stuff too
I think it's just the point where they finally realize what they've gotten themselves into and that it's a reality
And just remember, nothing is deffinate until it happens
Where is he being stationed next???
Hopefully you guys can work things out soon :bighug:

[Belinda]

Where is he being stationed next???

He's moving to Fort Campbell. Which is a whole other can of worms, cause his ride there just bailed on him...

But we talked because I finally snapped...and I cried and cried about how I hated how we were fighting and all sorts of things. And he apologized and we worked it all out. He said he's just under a lot of stress, and was sorry for taking it out on me. And I think we're okay now.

[Mary Cat]

See hun, everything will be fine
KY isn't too too far from OH.... Maybe you could take a trip out there a few weeks after he gets settled in?
And about his ride, if worse comes to worst he can always get a taxi or a bus or something