last to know

[Mouse]

so i thought that he only got 12 days of leave. come to find out it was a lot longer than that. when i asked him today why he didnt come home for a few days to see his family me and the kids he said that he had to see his friends.
its so awesome being the last one to find out about everything. and being the first one to be set aside.
i really hope that when he gets home from deployment he will have smartened up. otherwise all of this is for nothing.

[~SaBrInA_lEiGh~]

its not for nothing... i can tell you that everyminute with him being deployed will bring us coser so if he hasnt straightened up and you cant handle it anymore then hes given you some of the best friends youll ever have a chance to meet

[Lana]

Plus. If you guys go through the entire deployment and he DOES smarten up, you'll know you can make it through anything. If he doesn't, then it's a good test to your relationship and it will give you a definite answer, you know?

[Cortnie DeNise]

Sometimes they don't think...sometimes I'm not sure what is going through their brains. Thats find if he wanted to visit his friends, but he could have said something. Its just out of courtesy...if you think you should say something to him go ahead, or you can come and vent to us about it some more.

[~SaBrInA_lEiGh~]

ive been thinking maybe he didnt say anything cause he knew youd want to go with him and he is pushing you away cause he thinks it will be easier for him..ya know

[KristiMarie]

awww girl. LOVE YOU. Sorry he did that to you.

[dawgangel24]

Man that's just straight UP sh*tty

[happilymarried]

I am sorry!that is just wrong.

[Nuky Loves Nue]

He should have told you sooner, that is just wrong!!

[Danie]

That's not fair for you to find out the way you did. You have every right to be upset. It's not right for him to want to marry you, yet not tell you everything. Isn't that part of getting married? I hope he smartens up on you.

[Mouse]

You girls are amazing and I will never ever regret coming here. You all are more my friends than the people I have known for years.
He really hasn't been calling me this week. I know he went back to base and is getting ready to leave. His parents left NC tonight with all his stuff to bring it home. I have gotten 2 texts all day. I know he's gotta be busy but it does really feel like he is trying to distance himself from me.
I realized last night when I was out that he is the person I want to be with. I have never felt this "right" with someone. I am scared shitless that this is going to fall apart. The relationships I've had in the past few years have all been kind of hobbies. I didn't really care what happened and when one failed I just moved on to the next.
That's a big part of the reason I react so strongly to the stupid things he does. I've given everything I have to him. It's a scary place to be under normal circumstances. With the addition of the military...yuck it's too much to think about.

[KristiMarie]

Aw girl things will work out. Could he just be freaking out about his deployment? Many people say thier SO distance themselves before they deployed. I hope it all works out... keep in mind he is still just a boy!

[Mouse]

It seems that way. I do tend to forget he is younger than me.
Our whole relationship has been so umm strange I guess? Definately not the norm. When we first got together we had an open relationship. We were sort of together in that we talked about everything. We were always open with each other. But at the same time we were both seeing other people when we weren't together.
I wasn't so attached to him. And when I missed him and was sad I didn't feel guilty being with someone else. It's been really hard for both of us to adjust to only being with each other. It's crazy when we first met neither one of us ever wanted to get married. Let alone have a "serious relationship" lol.
There are just so many things going on with us I really shouldn't be surprised we're hitting rough road. It's going to take a while to work out all this out.

[Christy]

Deployments just flat out suck. This deployment has put so much unnecessary stress on me and Jason it's scary. Not only deployment, but the age thing too. It's nutty. Just try and stay positive and supportive, as hard as it is, but don't forget to take care of yourself too! We're here for you.

[Mary Cat]

A deployment can make you or break you but if you two really love each other, then you'll get through it and everything will be fine. Matt and I have deffinately gotten a lot closer since he's been deployed