Nothing is Deffinate until....

[Mary Cat]

Okay well we all know that when the military says "This is going to happen" you can't be 100% sure until it actually does BUT, I'm upset so I need to talk about this

Right before Matt deployed his CO or somebody up there said that his company was probably going to get an extension. Mind you this was BEFORE they even left! So he keeps me updatedon everything which I appreciate but it was really upsetting.
THEN..
Yesterday he tells me that he doesn't think they are going to get an extension anymore which is a good thing right?! WRONG!
In the Army there is a rule that says they can't send the same company to a combat zone more than once without 18months at home first.
Well apparently Obama decided to get rid of that rule or is trying to.
SO to get to the point, as of right now Matt said there's 95% chance that he's going to come home after his 12 months, be here for about 4-5 months and go back to Iraq! :rulez:
To me that's a lot worse than an extension!
What the heck are they thinking?! :badday:
Oh here are all these Soldiers, Marines, Airmen and whatnot that have never been deployed before but NOOOOO we want to send people who have already been b/c they no what it's like and blah blah blah!
It's not even the fact that he might have to do another delpoyment that makes me mad it's just that all of the sudden we're throwing out rules that give our SO's a decent "break" to be home with their families to send them back to war that quickly!
I know I can't get all worked up now since we dont know what's going to happen by then but I just had to get this out. :tissue:

[Christy]

That does suck. I do know that the last time they sent a bunch of guys, I believe it was the surge. They specifically targeted Units that haven't not deployed in a long time or ever. Now, yes, some of the same Units went as well, but they went after ones that had not before. Jason's unit was called up because it had been almost 3 years since they last deployed and his CO had to put the battle roster together and he specifically picked guys first that had never deployed which is why Jason was at the top of the list. That does suck. I think that the ones returning need a break. It's not right. I'm sorry Mary. Try not to worry about it until you know for sure. :bighug:

[~SaBrInA_lEiGh~]

like christy said just dont sweat it till it gets here

[Mary Cat]

I'm not too worried yet it was just upsetting hearing this when I'm in the middle of trying to figure out living arrangements for us.
So he'd be here through the winter with me and then he'd be leaving me all alone on the other side of the country :(
I know he's goign to have to leave again eventually but they need to have a break! And people wonder why our men have depression and anxiety disorders... um hello?! ugh

[~SaBrInA_lEiGh~]

ya they need to have a break halp out there morals you know

[Kristen]

Even when that 18 months rule was supposed to be in effect it didn't always happen. In between this deployment and the one before it Mike was home 13.5 months. It's RIDICULOUS! But I saw in the Army Times the other day that by late 2010/early 2011 dwell time between deployments should me 30 months!!! How wonderful would that be?!

But I really hope that everything works out!

[~SaBrInA_lEiGh~]

30 months i would be stoked but does that mean deployments will be longer?

[Lana]

I hate the army sometimes. But as you said before - you can't trust half of what they say. Nick still doesn't know how long his tour is... so don't freak and don't get MAD until it's actually happening. I know the feeling though. I about freaked when they said they'd be extending Nick's tour, too. It just seems unfair to do that to them.

[Kristen]

Sabrina-- I actually think deployments will stay the same or even go to 9 months. I'm not sure on that though. I know that they def wouldn't get longer though! I really hope it turns out that way!

[~SaBrInA_lEiGh~]

ok good cause i know we girls have a hard time as is..lol

[Meredith]

BLAH! Stupid army!! Mary like you said sweetie nothings ever set in stone! Mike got home in June and they're talking about sending him back in August...barely 14 months...Like Kristen. One day they're going one day they're not, the next they're extending the next they're not. Try not to set your mind on anything until he has orders in his hand!! I Know it's hard because women are planners but just keep your chin up!! And....welcome to being an army wife ;) lol It really sucks sometimes but only the best and strongest women are the ones to love a man in a uniform!! Just try not to let the chatter bother you!

[~SaBrInA_lEiGh~]

mere is right we girls have some of the thickest backbones ever... we got to in our line of love

[Mary Cat]

If it did change to 30 months I would be estatic!
Matt did tell me about that a few weeks ago too but he has to be put over there after a whole 4 months home in order for it to happen. Somedays I just don't like the Army

[Mary Cat]

And Mere, I love you .... (no :homo:)

[~SaBrInA_lEiGh~]

ya i know what you mean girly they dont realize they play games with our boys heads and OUR hearts at the same time...grrr

[MrsJoey]

i feel your pain ladies. everytime i get news from joey i get all worked up-but ive tried to keep in mind nothing is 100%...its hard cause like mere said, us females tend to be planners ;)
keep that head up, and dont let yourself freak till orders are in hand!

[Mary Cat]

I"m not planning on anything right now
Just means I might have to move up there alone but that's okay
As long as he's safe, whereever he is, I'm happy

[Cortnie DeNise]

Its frustrating when they say one thing and then another, and then lets go back to this, and then wait here's one more thing. Thats what the military does. Like you mentioned nothing is set in stone until it has actually happened. So your SO can tell you all this stuff and its like ok don't tell me until you know for sure...bc I don't want to know and then it be changed 5x more.

[Lisa]

OMG! I read your post and couldn't even read anybody elses because I'm going through the same thing!! D is supposed to be leaving in September for a FOUR months deployment in Japan (easiest thing ever right?) Well now he's superior whoever came to him and his friend and we're like this is supposed to be on the DL but now there's a really high chance they're getting sent to Afghanistan or something right in the middle of where all the really bad fighting is and its going to be 8 months... double the original time

[Meredith]

LOL No :homo: love is ok Mary! Just keep your chin up. Nothings definite till they get the papers. I wouldn't get your hopes up for 30 months off tho. As the girls have pointed out it's supposed to be 18 and most of them aren't even getting that right now. It would be great but I won't believe that one till I see it..as with most thing in the army! Just try not to let it get to you and remember that everything falls into place!

[Mary Cat]

I"m doing fine for right now
I just hope that I dont' move up there and then he doesn't come home for MONTHS lol
At least I'll have Colleen up there and a few other friends

[happilymarried]

I know the feeling!!I am so upset too,Because yesterday my husband told me there was a rumor that they could get a 6 month extension!!!!I was SO MAD!!His 3 years is already up this summer but he's deployed so he cant get out..so if they keep him any longer i will be very angry!

[Mary Cat]

At least we have each other though
I mean, it stinks but as long as their safe I guess I can't complain too much
You'll have us to keep you sane Marie!