ok, should i be mad.......

[GuardWife]

I really don't think he meant this how bad it sounds!! But ladies,
after fooling around, i mention, (so yes I may have asked for this sortof!) i said that on top was so much better and easier when i was skinnier...... DH says, I remember.................................. ok um, i was like dumbounded!!!!!!!
i laughed it of and gave him neverending **** about thinking I am fat... but..... that sucks......
i so want to lose weight but d*** that one was a bit harsh!
now i am gonna have to get off my butt and get on the workouts!!!!!!!! UGH>>>LOL
How would you have reacted!!
I am so glad I am silly by nature and can laugh at it at the time and now, but really deep down makes me feel like a squishy pilsbury dough boy/girl!!!!!!!!!!!
or beached whale!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!:blush::oops:

[KristiMarie]

well being as john-mark always makes fat jokes at me... I dunno how I would react. He is always like dont get fatER lol

[BrooklynDB]

John used to do stuff like that to me. Not on purpose, but guys don't get that when we say stuff like that, we really want reassurance. They don't mean anything by it. I got upset a few times when he's said stuff, but other than that I just laughed it off. I'm working out now and down about 10 pounds (which isn't a lot considering I need to lose about 40 more), but he loves it and all I get are compliments and encouragement from him. :)

[MyGuard]

i definitely agree with that. as women, we understand that saying something like that is a way of asking for reassurance. but try instead of doing or saying something like that, taking your own enitiative to start working out or dieting or both, whatever you decide you want to do, and surprise him. that often brings in the compliments and assurance that we all look for in our image, especially from our significant others. that 1st compliment that comes in when he says, ".. you look good today.." is one of the best feelings ever. i felt the same way you feel now a little less than a year ago, so i took control. i lost 20 lbs. in 6 months and have lost about 10 lbs. since he left for BCT. i am 130 lbs. now, i like it and he loves it. it's a really good feeling =)

[tHiSgIrLlOvEsHeR[sAiLoR]]

Oh goodness, I don't think I could take a comment like that. I would probably start balling. But, on the other hand it would give me a wake up call.. and get my butt to the gym as well. Good luck hun.

[GuardWife]

Thanks for the replies! I did lose 15 pounds while he was at basic and AIT, i am still working out.. it was just so bluntly put! We go walking together, i am not up to running like him! LOL so its all good, and as the weight comes off it will be fun to check out the progress!! LOL
hugs, and thanks all!