deployments are all about him....

[Meredith]

So I was asked when I was setting up my surgery date if I had a living will...I didn't even know what it was. But I guess it grants a person of your choice to make medical decisions for you if you're unable to make them yourself.

Well being that Mike is the only one who is legally allowed to make those choices and he's in...Iraq...I guess it would have been a smart thing to do since he won't be with me and it won't be likely that in an emergency they'd be able to get a hold of him quick enough.

Granted my surgery is NOT that big of a deal and is certainly not life threatening but we're so focused on the guys leaving do we ever stop to think about what would happen if something happened to us??

I know that parents have to have a plan in order for who takes children if there's an issue...but that still doesn't address the issue you know??

I think they should make sure that families are prepared for what will happen if the soldier gets hurt, where your kids go if you can't care of them if there's an accident, ANDDD how to make sure that things are in order for you to be taken care of if there's an issue.

[KristiMarie]

Ha Mere if the army cared about the families... I think half of us would faint ;)

[Meredith]

lol seriously.

I just think they should make a list of things you should consider they dont have to make them mandatory...but umm hi that would have been a little helpful you know?!

[Kira]

They told us that's what the FRG is for. You call your POC and we are supposed to know all the emergency #'s. But I agree there should be more than that.

I was talking the other day about Gabe and I am so afraid if something happens to me when Adam is gone because no one knows how to take care of him. I was told I should probably write a letter with all his meds and allergies and put it in a back pack and carry it with us everywhere. That just sounds so scary, I don't even want to think about that.

[Tissa]

Yes I thought of this too when my hubby was suppose to deploy since I've read articles where this has happened. I don't remember the details but it was something like the wife died in an accident while he was deployed I think. Anyway personally I was thinking of going to JAG and asking them if they could do a Will, Living Will etc for me. And then I also would have to write out all the Life Insurance and Banking info for hubby or whoever and tell them where it is. Even now I think if I was in an accident and couldn't communicate my husband wouldn't even know how to get at all the bank accounts, pay the mortgage, credit cards etc. Cause I do all that stuff, I don't even think he would know who our mortgage is with.

Anyway its something to think about even if your husband isn't deployed cause its something most people never think about till its too late. This reminds me of when my grandparents died 3 years ago, there was a lot of trouble over the will cause the lawyer lost the original copy and had to find the witness and get things verified etc. So it happens even when we're at the age where these things become more important.

So yes it would be great if the Army helped the families with this stuff too.

[BrooklynDB]

I think everyone should have some kind of plan like this. That goes for civilians, too. My grandpa handled a lot of his and my grandma's finances and when he passed away, she didn't know about some of the bills and how they were paid and such. She's still figuring stuff out. He did some things online, too and she doesn't even know how to use a computer. Thankfully we have a very close knit family, so she's had help from my aunt who had some ideas about the bills grandma didn't know about, and has been helping figure it out.

It's a really good idea to take into account the things you know that your SO doesn't and write them down somewhere for them in case something were to happen. No fun to think about, but you don't want them to grieve AND have to try to figure things out at the same time.