Bad day for anyone I kinda know...

[Erin]

My BFF from middle school lost her youngest son today. He was barely 2 and passed away today. We don't talk much anymore, but we're on facebook together. I feel really awful for her. He did have a serious yet rare brain disease/disorder.

Then...I tried to donate my extra breastmilk to someone adopting a baby this weekend. Today she found out that the birth mother changed her mind.

I cannot even imagine...:tissue:

[Katie]

Wow that is just horrible erin.. Just awful.. But your an amazing person for trying to do what you can to help..

[colleen]

That is unthinkable. I'm so sorry Erin, for both situations.

[afwife]

:(

[Lindsay]

wow im so sorry erin!! :(

[Courtney]

I really could not imagine losing a child. My daughter is 2 and my whole world would come crashing down if I lost her. I am so sorry to hear that.

Doing what you can to help is really great. I feel so bad for adoptive parents when birth moms change their mind. It's probably the same hurt as losing a child because they really are. We still love our children even before we meet them. I'm really sorry for your bad news.

[Kira]

I'm sorry Erin!

[Erin]

I really could not imagine losing a child. My daughter is 2 and my whole world would come crashing down if I lost her. I am so sorry to hear that.

Doing what you can to help is really great. I feel so bad for adoptive parents when birth moms change their mind. It's probably the same hurt as losing a child because they really are. We still love our children even before we meet them. I'm really sorry for your bad news.

That's what I figure!! I would think it would be so hard, knowing how close you were, and then you really have to start over. I just feel so bad for both of them...

[BrooklynDB]

Oh wow Erin, I'm so sorry to hear about both situations! I can't imagine being in either situation...:( My daughter is my life. I would be completely lost without her. And I agree with Courtney, having the birth mother change her mind would be just like losing a child. You get your heart set on that child and then you find out you can't have them...that's got to be a lot like losing a pregnancy! That's terrible. I will keep everyone in my thoughts!
That was really nice of you to try and donate your breastmilk...I'm sure they appreciated the effort!

[ReginaCherie]

thats awful!

i feel bad for the parents trying to adopt. but i kinka know how that birth mother feels at the same time. my best friend was going to give her son up for adoption. she made it till they were going to leave and she said she couldnt do it. she could watch someone else take home her baby.

[Katie]

Erin, that has been Josh & I's biggest fear in adoption... and I think that is what held us back up until now... and what made us want to use a surrogate instead... The fear of having our heart broken.... But then I got sick. How awful, I mean I know ppl are allowed to change their minds, and I am sure Mom did if for good reasons, but I really wish Birthmoms knew what it is a family that can't have children go through, so when they finally have the courage to come forward and want to open their hearts and families to a child (the birth mom's child @ that) she should understand..... I mean I know it has to be a horrendously hard thing for her to do too, giving up her child....I dunno... I guess it is just a hard situation for all involved... but my heart breaks for your friend right now.

[Erin]

Yeah i wish there was some way to make the whole adoption process go smoother. I don't think I could go through that personally...

[asoldierssweetie]

wow :(

[ashandbrons]

Erin we really need a hug button! That is so sad. I will keep them both in my thoughts.

[afwife]

**super duper huge hugs**