What do I do??

[BrooklynDB]

Yesterday we made plans to all go out to Chuck E Cheese for dinner since we got our lunch for free (family's restaurant), and it was our last night staying at John's brother's house for a while (he's only 1 1/2 hours away). Well, the guys took Josh's roommate to get a tattoo, and John called and said that we really couldn't afford Chuck E Cheese because we need gas for the drive and whatnot. So, him and his brother were going to play a free poker tournament. Well, I was really disappointed of course, but said okay. Honestly, I thought he was going to get a tattoo because there is one that is kind of questionable with his joining...wrong! They were supposed to stay for one game, stayed for both, and didn't get home until 1:30am...and actually spent more drinking than we would have going out to Chuck E Cheese and everyone could have gone. Well, I got up when he got here because you can hear everything in this house and our room is above the garage where they were hanging out at, and it was kinda loud. I went out to smoke and came back in and sat on the couch until he came in, and we talked about it. He said he understood why I was so upset, but kept talking about how he wanted time with his brother, which I understand too, but he has been here spending time with him everyday. I have hardly seen him since we've been here. He's always playing video games and drinking games at night with his brother and their good friend.
At the end of our little conversation, he started yelling at me so I got up and headed upstairs. He told me he was going to drop me at my gmas and I could get f***ed and called me a b**** and threw his ring at me saying he wants a divorce!!
I feel like ever since we came back to IN (we have been in FL for a year) things have just gone downhill...he has't said or done one nice thing for me since we have been here. He hasn't even gotten up with Chass once to let me sleep in for a change. I don't know what to do. I don't want a divorce, but I don't want to make him stay with me if he doesn't want to. I love him with all my heart and I'm afraid to hear him say he doesn't feel the same anymore...I tried talking to him this morning. He was laying down and I asked him to wake up for a second and he was just like "WHY??" flippin attitude, so I just said nevermind and came back downstairs...

I really don't know what to do. I feel like an idiot...:tissue:

[Katie]

I'm not by any means awake enough to be giving good advice, but I would say maybe for now, give him a little space, take a deep breath and let it roll off your shoulders... at least for the next few hours... I will think of something more insightful, and more helpful in a little bit... **HUGS** Men are such poop heads sometimes.

[BrooklynDB]

He's awake and barely remembers anything. I know he remembers throwing his ring at me, but I don't know what all he remembers. He's outside talking to his brother right now...he hasn't even apologized, but I hope he will...=/

[Katie]

Like I said, I wouldn't push it with him right now, I would give him a little space, and let him think about his butt hole ways... Still trying to think of something insightful....... But I would give him some space..

[Belinda]

Give him some space, and when both of you are calm (and neither of you have been drinking, etc), sit down and talk calmly about it. Lay down your side of things, how you're feeling, and make it clear you want to make it work, and you want to understand his point of view. I don't know much about you guy's situation, but you might find out he's got a lot more going on in his mind than you think...and we all know too well that guys tend to get real cranky when they're stressed. Hopefully you guys can work some sort of a deal out between you two that make you both happy.

Just remember, try to do this all without yelling. Cause when someone starts yelling, the other person stops listening.

*hugs* Keep us updated hon. Hope it turns out well.

[Meredith]

I'm with the girls...boys need space more than anything. Let him figure out WHAT he said and then how to fix it. I hope you get your apology! I find with my husband neither of us really apologizes we just move on...but for that I would expect an apology! That was major dickhead!! I hope things are better now!

[ReginaCherie]

i agree with the girls...he needs some spacce. all boys do sometimes.

[BrooklynDB]

Thanks girls. I guess he blacked out from drinking and didn't remember most of the night...he's never blacked out from drinking so yeah...I don't think he'll be drinking that much again, EVER! Haha! We're good now and things have blown over. He took me out on a couple dates, pool hall the other night, and Applebee's yesterday. We just moved into my grandma's house and I think we are both really stressed about him finding work/ getting our own place/him leaving for basic. We'll be okay, but I know we're going to have our days. We got the Love Dare as a wedding gift and I started it yesterday...let ya know how that goes.

[Danie]

We got the Love Dare as a wedding gift and I started it yesterday...let ya know how that goes.

I was going to suggest the Love Dare... I'm on day 14 and love it!!!