update

[~SaBrInA_lEiGh~]

ok soo i went home and i was hanging with a friend on saturday vday and tim hadnt called well she got on her myspace and tim had wrote her how he has always had a crush on her and this and that so she told him well to bad im your wifes friend and shes sitting right here and uh busted well i then haked into his myspace and he had been talking to one of my old best friends and she was telling him how he should come see her and she wants him and this and that and he didnt say anything about no he told her she looks hot in her pic and shit but then he tells her he wants a girl whos mature and and can wiat for him in deployments... ummm what the fuck!!!!!!!!!!!!!???????????????? like umm excuse me so i called him out on it he said he doesnt even remember talking to her he had a hangover from hell and he was wasted i told him so what everytime you get drunk and a bitch hits on you im going to have to wonder if this is the time you deside to cheat again?? he said no but i dont know i had the whole i want a divorce talk and he cryed like a baby telling me no hell prove im what he wants and this and that well ive been here all week and hes going way out of his way to prove it...

1) he took hayden down to his house... he never does anything its like im a single mom but married and him here... but its something thats always bothered me and hes doing it all by himself except baths hes afraid to dop him and hell drown so his cousin is doing baths...

2) we have talked more this week then we have in 3-4 months... about real things... like real convos not rushed to play video games and not rushed to avoid arguments...

3) we got off the phone today without saying i love yous sooo he text to tell me it... i know its korny but i just needed it to feel special again not nessecarily that but just to feel important to him and i did!

not ready to make my final decistion by far but its a start to show hes trying

[snwalways41903]

aww sabrina, im glad he is finally realizing! im sorry he keeps putting you through so much, im here if you ever need a late night chat, you know where to find me!!! hugs girlie i miss you!!

[Nuky Loves Nue]

Sabrina,

I am so glad that he is waking up! I hope he has realizesdwhat he has and what he could lose. I'm so happy for you.

[Christy]

I'm glad he's seeing things more clearly. I really hope it works out!

[a-m]

I hope things work out, and I'm glad things are starting to get better too.

[Courtney]

Hopefully he is realizing what he will lose if he doesn't get his act together. I am so sorry that he is doing that to you though. I couldn't imagine the hurt and frustration. Let's hope this is the turning point.

[Cortnie DeNise]

I'm glad he is trying...lets us know if you need anything :):bighug:

[Lana]

Sometimes guys just need wake-up calls to realize what jerks they've been. And that wake-up call can be a threat to leave. I'm just glad he's opening his eyes and seeing what he wants. I hope everything works out. If not, I've got spray paint and eggs. :)

[happilymarried]

I am so sorry...but thank god he is trying!hang in there.

[Spahr]

I really hope this is a turning point! And everything works out! We are here if you need us!

[~SaBrInA_lEiGh~]

i dont think anything has changed now i mean yes when it comes to me and hayden hes treated us a whole lot better but i know for a fact that hes talking to other girls that hes telling them theyll meet up and shit... god i want out of all this hurt but i just cant get my feet to move to walk away... the worst part is one of the girls is someone i thought was a best friend at one point.. we still talked from time to time but we werent as close but now all shes trying to get him to come over and drink and "hangout" as she put it and he answer was maybe..... maybe... are you kidding me????????.... and the other girl is his ex girlfriends sister (the girlfriend he cheated on me with... oh and did i forget to say shes preggo and theres a good chance its his)... she told him to come cuddle and he said hell try she said make it happen he said he would... what the fuck.... so i got on myspace and wrote her this long letter...ill post it at the end of this... and i didnt have the balls to send it... so i saved it to my drafts... fuck what it wrong with him... with me why cant i just walk away.... fuck!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


hey i just wanted to know if you can please tell my lieing cheating husband i want a divorce when he comes to cuddle with you he just left the house to go stay at his aunts right now cause theres not enough room at my friends where im staying and he doesnt make enough to get us a place.. and the cellphone is in my name and because im "not alowwed" to work because i have to get into shape for the navy and take care our son.... he cheated on me when he was gone at school with a stripper and then when we were "working" everything out he started dating jessica he would have her pick him up at OUR house while i was inside and the one night she got to come over i was at a friends.... all the while hes been talking to you and dating her we have still slept in the same bed... yes thats right ive lived with him this whole time... we moved to vegas together and then the resoan he moved to martins is because his mom hit me because she didnt want us to be together and it was our one year wedding aniversary... ya and the phone he keeps promiseing you... hahaha.... we couldnt afford to make the bill cause he hasnt been reporting to duty until this month so ive supported the family with my check... and its in my name so when i pay it off his wont be reactivated... just so you know! i just thought you would want to know before you get fucked over like i and your friend jessica did!... or ya and hes been talking to another girl by the name of amanda... who happens to be one of my old best friends... she lives right by his aunts house so i wouldnt be suprised if he fucks her on his way to your house

His Wife
Sabrina Liegh (only i used my last name)

[ReginaCherie]

sabrina i love you and you already know how i feel about this.

[Kathryn]

Ya..you know how I feel about it too...drop his sorry butt. you can do soooo much better.

[Lana]

Ugh...what a jerk. I can't believe he'd do that and claim to be so very smart and try to make it work. I think you should get rid of him, too. You don't need his dead weight holding you back.

[~SaBrInA_lEiGh~]

how do i just walk out? i dont know how ive tryed but my feet just wont budge i get like half way out the door every time but i always turn back

[KristiMarie]

We all know relationship are NOT perfect, they take work. Military ones are especially hard, always being apart. Things will work out. Take small steps!!

[KristiMarie]

Woah.. crap I just now read the other post. Holy cow girl. I LOVE YOU. Do what is best for you... keep your head up, you know where to find us if you need anything!

[~SaBrInA_lEiGh~]

but ive done all i can its him hes the one cheating and lying and deseaving how come i cant be strong enough to walk away?

[KristiMarie]

Have you confronted him about the cheating?

[~SaBrInA_lEiGh~]

ya he says its the past suck it up and get over it and i asked about the two girls on myspace and he said that he just doesnt know how to not play with there heads its all just myspace though he wont do anything but i dont know if i can beleive him cause of the past he promised to be with me and love me and only me and hes broken that promise already so how am i to believe him now especially since we havent "slept" together in almost a month and when i told him no again today when he stopped by to say goodbye... i told him wait til we have time and it can be real not real quike... he said he can wait till next month im going to probubly be staying two weeks up in p-dale in march and he said that hes tired of jerking it i asked him what that ment and he said nothing... forget it like ummm hello.... really im not stupid...

[Nuky Loves Nue]

It's not that you can't be stong enough, it's that he has led you to believe you are not strong enough. You will do everything in your power no matter what for your child right? If Hayden needed something you would move heaven and earth to get it for him right? That is because you know it needs to be done. By his cheating he has led you to believe you are not strong enough to leave him because if you did you wouldn't put up with it. This is abuse any way you look at it, whether it be emotional or physical it is still abuse. You need to believe in yourself. You are intelligent, beautiful (even though I haven't seen you I know just by the words you type you are), and very compassionate. You have it in you to do what you need to do. You just need to see it for yourself. No one deserves to be treated that way. If he changes his ways and it works out, then great I will be happy for you, but if it doesn't (and it sounds like he is not ready to change) know that you are awesome you do not need to put up with his ass.

[Lana]

Yeah, It is going to take time. You've been conditioned all of this time to believe you can't do certain things. I know you can do it, girl. Just have to get some strength and confidence and you can do anything you put your mind to.

[~SaBrInA_lEiGh~]

thanks girls it just hard i know im going to have to but its so hard when we fight more then we laugh and he can look me right in the eyes and lie so i cant tell anymore what to believe or not believe and if hes lied befor ehow am i to trust hes telling the truth... i know i deserve better and ive always been the one to say once cheater always a cheater and i dont know if i can get past that even if he did really try.... and he keeps telling me how is he ever going to fix things if im always questioning him... like really? i am trying so hard but with the way he talks with those girls its hard ya its myspace but come on

[erikalilly]

I know how hard it is but you will be so much happier in the end. I really think you need to move, fo you and your child. Its time to ignore him, be strong without him. You know you can and you have your beautiful baby to push you along! :)

[~SaBrInA_lEiGh~]

i know i sent a email to that chick amanda and told her to tell him im filing for divorce when they hang out.... i just dont have the guts to do it when it comes to the girl i dont even know... even though its her sisters ex shes trying to hook up with now yep my husband might be her niece/nephews daddy

[Lisa]

Wow you really need to just break away from this. I know it will be the hardest thing you've ever had to do, but once you do you will be so much happier, and you being happier will be better for your child, too. You said it, "once a cheater, always a cheater" and this "I don't know how to not play with their heads"?? BULL SHIT! File for divorce, kick him to the curb, and get out of there! You will be so much better off! & We'll always be here for you!

[Cortnie DeNise]

I can't necessarily tell you what to do/not, but is there any way possible that you can take some space away from him or separate? Think about your options.:bighug:

[Mary Cat]

Awww sweetie I hope you guys can work things out :bighug"