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Nuky Loves Nue
02-20-2009, 09:36 AM
Ok, here is the situation: :rant:

We lived in a place on post, and had neighbors that were kitty-corner to our townhouse. They had 5 kids from the ages of 11 years-18 months. Everyday the mother would allow her 18 month old to play in the street and in-and-out of the parked cars unsupervised. She claimed that he would get out of the house without her knowing about it. There was very little driving room on the street (only one car at a time), and since she lived on the corner, there was very little time to stop when he darted out in front of vehicles. My best friend had to block the road with her truck for over 2 minutes before she came out and got him. There were several times when I would have to bring him home because he had walked a block away. Not to mention he was always out in a onesie even during the winter. Finally I had had enough and called the MP's. I was really worried about her son's welfare and I didn't want to go to prison because I hit and killed her son. On the day I called them, my truck got keyed. I was furious, but I could not prove it was them. She was constantly calling the cops for various reasons. It's not that we are busy bodies, we just happened to be out there when the cops showed up. The entire neighborhood was outside talking (and watching another episode of cops on our front lawn), and she came out telling us all about why the cops were there. One of the other neighbor's told her she needs to stop worring about what the cops are doing and go take care of her kids. She got upset and her husband comes over to find out what is going on. All of the men start telling him that if he wants to stay in the military he needs to be a man and talk to his wife about taking care of his children. I know I shouldn't have, but I told him about my friend having to stop traffic and about having to take his 18-month old son home from down the street. I instantly became the "Bitch" of the street because I was the only woman to speak up. Oh well, I can handle that. If speaking my mind makes me a bitch I will take it. One time she went to my next door neighbors house and told them their son and my son was in the forest behind the house with a hatchet cutting down trees. Well, my neighbor's son and my son were both up in their respective bedrooms playing video games. I let it go because it was not worth getting upset over. She was constantly doing that and it was just another nail in the coffin. Fast forward six months. We all had to move because they were demo'ing our townhouses. We both moved to different housing areas. My husband ended up moving to her husband's unit. Damn it all to hell. I have been polite and have always said hello to them when I do see them. I really just want to move on. It is just not worth it. (Although I know this vent really doesn't sound like it. I appologize.) I am involved with FRG, but have not seen her (I have seen her husband though). My husband outranks her husband and he has always been super polite and friendly with my husband. He has joked around with my husband and has acted like nothing happened (which is good to see). Whenever I am with my husband, he is very nice (smiles and says hello).

Since I gave you a little bit of history, here is the issue: Last night we had the deployment briefing. My daughter (who is 11 years old) and I were walking up to the doors of the theater where the briefing was held. He was standing on the other side of the street talking to a buddy. The next thing I know is he did the whole arm "flip off" to me. I was absolutely stunned. I looked around and we were the only ones around at the moment. I was going to say something right then, but I am a little bit of a hot head and didn't want to start anything, especially with my daughter standing there and right before the briefing. If he has an issue with me, fine. If you don't want to talk to me, fine, but do not flip me off like that in front of my daughter. She was even upset by it. I don't know what to do. Do I just get over it?? I talked to my husband, but right now he is in BNCOC so there is nothing he can do. I slept on it, but now I just need to vent. I am just frustrated that after over a year that everything went down I am being harassed by the same SH**!! What I did was right. I have no doubt of that. These are people in their 30's (same as me and my hubby), but damn people!! Show a little bit of maturity!! I just want to scream. :gah:

Sorry for the long rant, but I really needed to get that off my chest. If any of you have some advice for me please let me know.

Christy
02-20-2009, 10:09 AM
That is crazy. Sorry you have to deal with people like that! Just ignore them!! I know it's easier said than done, but you will be the bigger person in the end!!! :bighug:

Kathryn
02-20-2009, 12:06 PM
I'm a hot head too...THROW EGGS AT THEIR CAR!!! Lol I'm totally jk! Don't do that! Ha I guess the best thing would be to ignore them..even though I know that's gonna be hard. Seriously they need to F-in grow up!!

Courtney
02-20-2009, 12:31 PM
I totally agree that you did the right thing about speaking up for their 18 mo old. I totally can't believe he did the whole arm flip off. I would have been stunned too. I am conflicted on what the best thing to do is. You could be unspoken, he showed his emotions - sometimes silence speaks louder than words (or gestures in this case). But I also think confronting him in a mature way could resolve it.

erikalilly
02-20-2009, 04:21 PM
I think ignoring might be good, but it seems liek that isnt working. I would either have a mature sit down with him or even ask your husband to talk about it. Maybe the guy, you and your husband can talk about it that way you have your husband to back you up but you can tell the man how you feel. Tell him you just want everything dropped. Maybe he will finally grow up.

I am so sorry you have ot go through all this crap!

KristiMarie
02-21-2009, 10:34 PM
Some people just never grow up... I say just ignore it and let them be immature!

Katie
02-22-2009, 10:04 AM
:doh:Quite frankly I would have just walked up and punched him in the grundle piece...

He is ONE stupid MO FO.... You talking to your husband could get him in quite a bit of trouble from what I understand. ESPEC. becuase your husband out ranks him in the same unit.

I would say somethign to your husband when he comes back. Aparently ignoring them is not working and it is NOT approp. they disrespect you so blatenly esp in front of children.

If they want to be bad parents that is one thing, I am behind you 100% I would have steppd in too. but they are taking this too far and it isn't ok.

Let me know if you need me to KICK some douche bag ass... Josh went to Knox for all his training... how do you like living there otherwise?

Cortnie DeNise
02-22-2009, 10:21 AM
I would ignore them and totally act like it doesn't phase you...that can get to people without even saying anything.

Nuky Loves Nue
02-22-2009, 02:25 PM
Katie,

I hate it! :mad: That could just be because my hubby is in a really bad unit, but I think it also has to do with some of the people I have encountered. I am from Montana, and I am used to people waving or saying hi to people they walk past. That is really not the case here. If I say hi or wave, they either grab their children and quickly walk off or they stare at me like I have a booger hanging out of my nose. I have been hit so many times in the back of the ankles at the commissary that I am surprised I have any skin left back there. LOL Then when I turn around they act like it is my fault they ran in to me. It's not like I am going to turn around and smack them (even though I may want to). I know there is a different culture out there, but sometimes I wonder if I may be in a different world LOL. I have met some really nice people, but I don't know if they are from here or not. The services (ACS and deployment support for the post) are really good. They really get to know you as a person instead of a number or a "spouse".

I know all posts have their little quirks. I guess it all depends on where you go. I've heard Southern Kentucky, down there by Fort Campbell, is better, but I don't know.

erikalilly
02-22-2009, 02:36 PM
Wow that is so terrible!! I hope you experience is a little bit more enjoyable soon!! :) Have a good day!