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MichaelaEScheerens
07-19-2009, 06:09 PM
I'm pregnant... but Zach and I don't know what to do... we're not ready for kids. we don't want kids yet! He's going to try to get emergency leave...
snwalways41903
07-19-2009, 06:46 PM
im sorry hun! im sure you will be a great mommy though! best of luck with everything!
Meredith
07-19-2009, 07:00 PM
What I told my gf when she found out she was pregnant was this....sit down with your bf and discuss all the pros and cons to having a baby right now. I'm pro-choice so I'm sorry if I offend you or anyone else (I don't agree with women who use it as birth control but lets face it, sometimes shit happens) So basically if you guys decide you're ready and you have the means to take care of a baby go for it, you'll learn along the way JUST the way people who are ready to have babies do! If you're not, you're not and don't let the fact that people judge one another keep you from making the right decision for you and your s/o. Kids are a big responsibility and surely not one to be taken lightly. Hang in there girl, you and your guy will get it all figured out!
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What Mere said! 50% of babies born in the US today are unplanned, so quite obviously there are a lot of people who deal with this and come out of it quite well.
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ReginaCherie
07-19-2009, 08:34 PM
i wasnt ready when i got pregos with rylie. but we worked it out and had the support of our familys. you just gotta do whats right for you.
Spahr
07-19-2009, 09:06 PM
You know my story! We were financially ready and able when we got pregnant but we had been staying with my mom and when we found out she found out and kicked us out. We both lost our jobs and thanks to this lovely economy neither of us were able to find one. Well I wasn't able to because I was pregnant and he eventually did but it was NO WHERE near as good as what his old job was. Moral of the story... theres no right time or situations cuz things could always change. I'm sure whatever you guys decide it will be right for you guys and that is what matters. :bighug:
MichaelaEScheerens
07-19-2009, 10:00 PM
we're talking it over. hopefully he's going to get emergency leave. We think we've made a decision but for right now we're keeping it to ourselves 'cause... well... we don't want people changing our minds... thanks for the support ladies. I sure do appreciate it.
Lauren_USMC_love
07-19-2009, 11:43 PM
With whatever you guys decided, know that we have your back and support you all the way! I wish you the best girl!
asoldierssweetie
07-20-2009, 01:31 PM
i agree, whatever you 2 choose, we will support you %100. everything will work out girlie!!
Kathryn
07-20-2009, 03:10 PM
ugh good lucky girl. i was 16 when i got pregnant. i def was NOT ready but Lexie and I are doing great! Hope you make the right choice.
I agree with everyone. It's your choice, there is no right or wrong time. Both my boys were the wrong time but I couldn't be happier!! Good Luck!!
MichaelaEScheerens
07-20-2009, 05:14 PM
Thanks girls! not going to lie- i'm not sure if it's the mood swings (and morning sickness ><) or if it's the unsureness but every time Zach and I make a decision we change it again so the SGT said he could have this weekend on pass and come home so we could talk it over. :/ at least i get to see him.
I'm glad he's coming home and you will get to make the decision together.
littleurban
07-20-2009, 09:07 PM
Hey,
I just saw this post now for some reason! I'm glad that your husband gets to come home so you can discuss everything. I agree with the girls, do whatever is right for you two and try not to let others persuade you; after all you are the only one that knows what is right for you.
*hugs*
MichaelaEScheerens
07-21-2009, 06:57 PM
Thanks ... well we have good news and bad news....
I'm only 15-18 days pregnant... still very early....so Zach and I still have time to think and make a good decision. however.... my hormones are 2x what they should be... and the dr hasn't seen anything in the ultrasound... they DON'T think it's ectopic, just early... but...
It might be twins.
'cause my hormone levels are so high they called me this afternoon and said yeah... I'm going in for another ultrasound thursday and more blood work... ugh. I'd kill him and his little swimmers if he wasn't so damn cute but idk what to do. the timing is all wrong for one- let alone 2 kids!!!!
HEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEELP!
Lauren_USMC_love
07-21-2009, 10:50 PM
aww girl...just take your time in making your decision. In the end, ya'll will know what is the right one for you two. And twins?! Yikes! That is a lot to handle. No matter the decision, I support you guys! I'm here if you ever need to talk. Stay strong!
littleurban
07-22-2009, 12:19 AM
Omg, twins! that's crazy! like you said though you still have time to make a decison and I am def. here if you need to talk.
Twins, wow!! I had a lot of reservations when I got pregnant with both my boys. The timing was really off. I wasn't ready emotionally when I had Donovan, my first, at all. I had a lot of debt, just lost 80 lbs, just got out of a 3 yeard realtionship not even a year before. I was a mess. I was already 12 weeks when I found out though, I probably could have known sooner but like I said emotionally I wasn't ready. So Adam kept bugging me and in the back of my mind I was just hoping it wasn't true. I went for an U/S and saw the baby and it did it for me. I pondered the thought of adoption. I was actually going to give up my rights to Adam since we were not married. I don't know things just started working out we paid down debt ( I filed bankruptcy at 22 ), we got our own place, everyone supported us, so things just worked out better than I hoped.
I'm rambling but I just wanted to say your not alone and no matter your decision we are all here for you!!
MichaelaEScheerens
07-22-2009, 06:23 PM
ugh! well... here's the status... we've decided... but we have to wait till next thursday 'cause i'm not far enough along yet... we're so not ready and Zach is extremely against adoption for his own child... ugh... I'm not ready to be a mom but this is starting to depress me. I'm really upset all the time and the hormones are killing me. I'm just really very lonely. extremely lonely. Idk he's coming home this weekend, which will help, but I still... idk... I had a miscarriage a few years ago and it's killing me that I have to loose another. idk... if you want to call me pm me and I'll give you my number but ugh.
I hate having to make this decision but in a few years we'll be ready... just not now.
I'm so sorry your going through a rough time right now, just know you are not alone. Only the both of you know what is right for your family.
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littleurban
07-22-2009, 08:11 PM
:bighug:
I can't relate to what you are going through but you will get through this. Stay strong! It is a rough time but you know what is right for the both of you. I'll pm you my number...I love texting, anytime of day
KristiMarie
07-23-2009, 10:00 AM
Wow... somehow I am JUST now reading this. Sorry the timing is all off girl. Don't jump to any conclusions yet, like you said its still early, and you do have time.
It doesnt sound like a etopic pregnancy, and I think its wayyy to early for them to tell if its twins, but who knows.
Im pming you my number, call or text whenever! Im an insomniac and hardly ever sleep!
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