How do you ladies deal with people like this? I wanted to punch him!!

[littleurban]

So I'm about to vent! LOL :rant:

So there is this guy at the place I work at whose name in Jon... Well we talk and what not at work and last night he asked me how Matt was.. so I explained to him the second deployment part. He looks at me and says....


Wow your boyfriend chose to go to Afghan to kill innocent civilians over being with you!

Of course I stood up for Matt and said how he was fighing for us and all that stuff and how I didn't look at it that way because I am proud of him and what he does. This is his job

After I said my little thing he was like are you going to sit here and stand up for your man the whole time. and started going on about how people in the military are "messed" up in the heads and what not!!Seriously. I could not believe that he was sitting here telling ME about this!! Umm hello I'm dating someone in the Military!! are you serious!!:betternot: he did not just go there!!
after that I just went off and said how he probably couldn't last a day at basic and how not a lot of people are cut out for the military..... I couldn't deal with it anymore so I just walked away.

AH!! I am so mad..... and then he has the courage to come up to me later on that night ( knowing that I'm pissed off) and says hey just to let you know that you deserve better and that I looked really cute--and asked me if I was dressed like that because I had a date!! oh and that we should go out next weekend and hang out!!! SERIOUSLY

How do you ladies handle people like this?!?!?! This is my first time dealing with it...I thought I did good but it seemed like I failed miserably... :\

[Meredith]

That's a frustrating situation and I think we've all been there, probably more than once. It never seems like you say the right thing mainly because the person your fighting with is obviously ignorant enough not to be able to understand the way you look at it even if they don't agree with it. I don't know what I would do, I can't believe he made a pass at you! Just know in your heart that you love your guy regardless of what other people think and if he tries to ask you out again I'd tell him to shove it and that he's been nothing but an ass hole!

[littleurban]

, I can't believe he made a pass at you! Just know in your heart that you love your guy regardless of what other people think and if he tries to ask you out again I'd tell him to shove it and that he's been nothing but an ass hole!






Oh I think I made that perfectly clear last night! LOL

[Mouse]

I just tell them to fuck off. Seriously if you cant appreciate what we give up so you have the freedom to talk shit then get away from me before I smack you in the mouth. I dont argue cuz whats the point? They think they know what its about and they think they are right and youre wrong. I just plain out say Fuck you I dare you to say that to my boys face when he gets home.

[Kathryn]

What a DOUCHE BAG!!!!!!! Ugh!!!! But I agree with Mere, we ALL have been there at least once. Just let it go through one ear and out the other..that's all you can really do. They don't understand what you're going through and you can't expect them too..but at least they can ahve the decency to keep their damn mouths shut! I feel ya girl! lol I actually had one of Justin's friends that is a former Marine hit on me a few months back. He was like " you know kat, it's not a smart idea to be with someone who is deployed and who is still going to have a year left in the service..expecially since ya'll just started dating. so just let me know when you're tired of it...i'll be here" I was like WTF!?!?!?!?!?
I haven't told Justin about it bc I don't want him worried about anything while he's still gone. I'll tell him when he gets back and he can do what he wants with him..lol But anywho...just try not to let it get to you...you're obviously the better person anyways!

[Mouse]

When I posted this I looked at the top and it happened to be an online anger management ad. bwahahahaha!!!! re-reading my post maybe i need it. hahaha

[Belinda]

With people like this...you aren't going to be able to change their mind. No matter what you say or do, they're going to keep on believing whatever they believe. However, I can tell you I would have done what you did and worse. I have somewhat violent tendencies...
So you actually handled it pretty well in my opinion. If he does it again, report him for harassment. Usually companies have pretty strong rules against it, and it's obviously really upsetting to you. And besides, we all know that when a woman says "harassment", some guy is gonna get fired...which would solve your "I want to punch him in the face" sort of problem.

[ashandbrons]

I agree with Mere too! I would just ignore him! People can be so rude!!! I cannot stand when people who have no clue about your situation try to but in and council you!! Keep your head up and if he tries it again, kick him where it counts!

[littleurban]

ha ha ha Mouse I love you!!!

Thanks Ladies!! I have never experienced that yet!