The hardest decision yet

[Theresa]

So after Dan and I talked (halfway still angry) he basically keeps telling me that he, "made a mistake", and that he did it because he liked feeling "free".
He keeps telling me this, "My heart says I wanna be with you, but my mind is all f'd up and wants freedom"
So this is where I need to make a decision. I would like to work it out, but with our trust in the gutter, it's going to be 10X harder. AND, it doesn't put my soul at ease knowing, his mind wants to be free. (whatever that may mean)
It just makes me feel like i'm some ball and chain, and instead of letting him go free NOW, what if later in life he decides to do it again, or for real. Or what if he's just saying he wants to be with me to spare my feelings, or what if he wants me to be the one to give him 'permission' to be free. :shrug:
I know the saying "if you love it let it go, if it comes back its yours" ..but its SO much harder said than done. And what if he doesn't come back?
I feel like its just giving him permission to cheat, and what if he does what he needs to do.... and then decides he wants me back.
I am a stubborn son of a gun, and inside.... i know i'll hold it against him.
:shrug::shrug:

[christina3019]

i have been there! no worried it will all work out the way it should! i know how you feel it is a struggle everyday BUT if you do want to make it work you have to lay all the past behind you! NEVER bring it up satan gives you those feelings to cause conflict! i know it will work just be patient......

[KristiMarie]

Oh girl. I know how hard this is... sometimes letting them go is the best thing to do. JM and I broke up a few times a long the way. I was stubborn and fought for it, but we broke up, other people were involved, and the one thing we realized was how much we needed each other. It also caused some problems of if you really loved me you wouldnt have done that, and were still working on getting over those... but things are fine. I am a firm believer of everything happens for a reason... if you let him go and end up back together, you know you can withstand everything... it is scary to be this young and so in love... and if you let him go and its not meant to be... you will find someone who is. Love you stay strong, do what you feel is best, dont let it kill you inside.

[Theresa]

thanks... i feel like i've been being patient for the past 3 years. I am just ready to be happy and content. But i guess nothing worth having, comes easy.
I just wish i knew it's worth it in the long run.:beggin:
its nice to know things will eventually work out, whatever it may bring. But i just wish i had some insight. :/

[Cortnie DeNise]

I would say this, and it may be hard, but see how it is if you give his mind the freedom that he is asking for. If it is meant to be, you guys will be together. Forcing it isn't going to help. So just let things work themselves out, and pray before you do anything.

[Lana]

I don't think anyone can really tell you what to do at this point. Just try to do what you think is right. Don't worry about the future. Worry about right now and what's going to happen at this exact moment. That's all you can do.

[colleen]

Sometimes the right thing to do isn't always the easiest thing to do and sounds like there really isn't a right or wrong answer for this situation. I am sorry you are going through this. I really think you need to take some 'me' time for yourself right now. Remember you are young and beautiful and any guy would be lucky to have you, and when he does have you he should treat you like a princess. Put yourself first and be happy and secure with who you are, and then the rest will fall into place. You said it best though, if it's meant to be it will be in the end. Hugs for you!

[Mary Cat]

I went through this with Matt and we stayed together and eventually he freaked out and brokekup with me. We ended up being apart for several months but then got back together and now we're happier than ever before!
I know it's hard but sometimes you really do have to let people go.
Tell him that you don't want to leave him but you can't be in a relationship where someone doesn't 100% want to be with you.
Love you girl :bighug"
Keep us updated. I hope everything works out for you!