Ok I'm ready for something to go good

[Mouse]

So I got a phone call last night that was half good half bad. First he told me how much he missed me and couldnt wait to see me. Then in the next breath he told me how his friends are tooling on him cause he's changing. That he isn't happy because all his friends say he is not the same person they knew because he isn't partying and picking up random girls at the bars with them anymore. He said he didn't know if getting married was a good idea. I think thats what he meant. He said I don't know if this is a good idea. Could be marriage or maybe he meant being with me in general.

I just don't get it. Now he is back at base and hasn't even called me. He has checked his myspace though. If he doesn't call me tonight I will be hurt beyond words. I feel so sick to my stomach. After the phone call last night and no phone call tonight I don't even know where I stand with him.
I don't like being in the gray area. Either we are or we're not. But don't mess around with me and play these stupid games.
I'm off to bed. I am so ready for this day to be over.

[KristiMarie]

awwwwww girl. Give him his space tonight. I know not talking sucks... but it gives both of you a chance to think about things. LOVE YOU. stay strong!

[Lana]

I hope he's not going to do something stupid. Guys in the army who are single can be complete tools about certain things. Especially jealous because they want all their buddies to be miserable and alone with them. Nick dealt with this in AIT, a bunch of guys wanted him to go to a strip club and he eventually stopped hanging out with them because we always ended up fighting when he hung out with them.

[Danie]

Mouse.... I hope he's not being an idiot. I know boys have idiotic thoughts, esp when their friends aren't sure about the new person they have become blaming the girlfriend right away. They haven't figured out if the Miliatary plays any part in it... They will soon. Hugs... I hope you had a better night...

[Mouse]

Well I didn't call him. And he didn't call me. I did text him before I went to sleep just said happy v-day and that I hoped his day went ok. I got a text back at 4am that said I luv you. I'm not feeling so optimistic about things right now but I'm not going to call him. He will call me when he wants to talk. I'm sure he's busy. I just hope he wasn't busy out at a bar last night. Anyway. Blah I don't like when things feel like they are shaky between us but I suppose I should try to get used to it.

[Theresa]

I think his friends should understand if he's a MARRIED man, he shouldn't be "picking up chicks" at the bar, that is just something sooo... i want to say childish.
Having something stable at home should be a GOOD thing, something wonderful, not something to tie ya down.
I hope he realizes that! And being in the gray area is not someplace fun.
Good luck girly:bighug:

[Belinda]

Erik is always pissy at the other guys in his bay because they always go out drinking and going to pick up women, and they always give him a hard time about not coming.
It's a lot of peer pressure, but your man needs to realize that he's married, and has responsibilities that need to come before having fun.

[erikalilly]

I agree and I am sure it will work out. It seems like guys have a general attitude about being married when they are around other people that are not. I always found it best to let Ryan go out with the guys, go to the bar, and trust him not to pick up girls. After all, you can still have fun without getting a girl to come home with you. I still love going out with my girl friends, guys talk to them and I have no problem with it.

He is probably just in a sticky situation right now. Remember though, if guys dont want to be with you they wont be. He loves you. Keep your head up and focus on those cute little children of yours! He will be back and happy to hold you in his arms again!

[Mouse]

We talked last night. A whole bunch of texts. But things are ok with us again. Its just he gets all tweaked out. The longer we go without seeing each other the worse we both act. He gets distant and I get anxious. It's no fun. Our relationship is still so new. Even if we were able to be together it would still be shaky. Ya know? The distance makes it so much harder.
But we talked it out last night. And then we had a 40 min drunken conversation. We both got lit last night. I don't remember too much of it but he called me this morning to see if I was hungover. Which I was. lol!

[ReginaCherie]

oh honey im so sorry i hate when other people get invalved almost all scott friends tryed talking him out of marrying me. it didnt work scott came around a figured out i was more important. i hope he figures it out soon for you!

[Mary Cat]

Well I'm glad things are getting better hun :bighug:
Sometimes the distance really does get to ya but if you really love each other then things will be fine! :)

[Cortnie DeNise]

Sometimes people should really keep their opinions to themselves. Why would someone engaged do the same things a single person would. If that counts as change...well I guess thats change then. Maybe the correct term they should have used was maturing. Yeah you can be in a relationship, engaged, married to someone and still go out, but the whole picking up girls doesn't need to happen. Maybe his friends should think about that. I'm glad you guys talked and you both are feeling betters. Distance can make things harder. Instead of arguing just try and let the situation cool off and then try talking. Always pray :)

[a-m]

No worries, Mouse! I'm sure he's just thinking to much. And the guys are always trying to get to eachother. They are really good at figuring out what to say that will get their minds going. If I had a penny for everytime Yvain told me he wasn't sure if this was 'right' I would be richer than Bill Gates. Like you said, the distance makes everything more complicated. But it wil all work out.

[Christy]

Oh A-M, that's the story of my life right now, "I'm not sure if this is right", so frustraiting!!!! Ugh! Everything will work out Mouse!!!! :bighug: