Loosing my mind..

[Kathryn]

So my daughter is constantly getting in trouble at daycare..she wont stay still..takes she shoe laces off and tries ro hit kids with them..laughs at the teacher when she tries to tell her to do something..throws mulch in kids hair..etc... I'm serioulsy about to loose my friggin mind with her! Her teacher wants to send her to another class bc she just can't handle it anymore..and I can't blame her.

I took her to her peditrician to get her tested for ADD/ADHD and she wants to send Lexie to a Physiatrist (ya i have no idea how to spell that)..and well..I dont think she needs to go to one of those. Doctor sais she def has the signs for ADD but just doesn't want to put her on the meds..ugh! I honestly think her behavior has a lot to do with her stupid dad. He lets her to everything I don't allow her to do when she's with him. SHe runs wild..gets away with everything and he NEVER punishes her. I can never try to talk to him about it bc he always starts a fight and I just want to punch him in his f-in face. His excuse is "i'm not going to punish her when I only see her everyother weekend". She needs something CONSTANT! ugh!!!!

Sorry I just had to vent about it..I seriously hate her dad..he needs to be more of a father than trying to a friend...oh and his little girlfriend needs to stop telling Lexie to call her mommy...bc I will serioulsy beat her fuckin ass..but that's a WHOLE different story..lol

[Jessie.Rose]

awe kathryn!!! his gf has def. no right with that! i'd punch her in the face multiple times!!!!!!!!!!! and im sorry about lexie being troublesome at daycare. and you'd think that they would try the meds for ADD before sending her to more drs. and if the meds didnt change anything then they would try....they're just tryin to get more money out of you!!! i hope things get better....i really do!!!!

[Meredith]

Woah first off the gf is wayyyyyyy out of line! And Lexie's father needs to tell her to cut that shit out. Secondly her father is an ass..probably why the gf gets away with telling Lexie to call her mommy! YIKES.. Honestly he's not much of a father if he can't discipline her even if he only sees her once in awhile. I'd tell him that she's having discipline issues and that the two you need to work together on getting her under control and if he can't do that then you won't allow Lexie to see him. I know I wouldn't want my kid to go without her father but it's not fair Lexie. Shes the one whose losing out at school because he can't find it in his heart to yell at her...yell at her or screw up her education...maybe if you make it seem a little more drastic he'll get it through his dense skull..and I'd surely have it out over the mommy thing...that's not right at all!

[Kathryn]

Ya James tells Lexie to call her mommy too..I swear I don't wish this on anyone but I really wouldn't care if he died like today. Lexie and I would be sooo better off without him. I actually can keep him from seeing her bc he doesn't pay me child support like he's suppose too. He likes to switch jobs every couple of months so the DA can't find him. He's over $10,000 in debt with me right now. Does he think he can get away with not paying me?? Dumb ass. Lexie will be in her 30's and he'll still be paying me..lol I ahvne't gotten anything since I got his stimulous check this time LAST YEAR. He's just a dead beat..no lie. But Lexie loves him to death and can't wait to see him when she does. His little girlfriend is 18 (lol) and apparent;y doesn't know what she got herself into dating him..ugh! Oh..and funny thing is is that J knows him! lol They went to junior high together and hung out all the time..I was like what the hell!! haah

But ya I seriously need to get her behavior under control before she starts kindergarten in August. I don't wanna get calls from her school everyday for kicking the teacher or something..

[Erin]

Honestly, while her father may suck at parenting, I think the daycare teacher is to fault for her problems at daycare. Kids test the limits based on where they are, not where they have previously been. Lil M knows what limits I have, and what limits daddy has, and he will will go right up to those limits depending on who he is with. He also knows the limits for his grandmother, which are way more lax...and he gets away with murder.

Unless it is a problem like ADD/ADHD which may not be the teachers fault lol. I hope you can get something with the doctor to work. I personally don't see anything wrong with consulting with a psychiatrist. You wouldn't have to commit her or anything, just try to get some answers!

[Meredith]

Erin has a great point!! I didn't think of that. Kid's test boundaries with every adult and she knows that she gets away with those things because the daycare teacher can't control it!

With the add/adhd - I know it's a pain in the butt to take her to a bunch of Dr's but I'd really take her to the psychiatrist like her ped suggested. Unfortunately add/adhd meds are over prescribed (NOT saying Lexie doesn't need them. I don't know Lexie. But I've seen how great they can be for people. The difference they make with my brother is UNbelievable) But I'd really let a specialist make that decision, it may seem like add/adhd but it could just be the daycare teacher doesn't know how to keep her under control and no need to put her on meds if she doesn't need them. Ya know?

I hope you get it all figured out hun! I'm sure Lexie is a wonderful little girl and you'll get it all figured out!

[Kira]

I agree with Erin and Mere ( about the meds ).

My son is/was a handful. He still has major concentration issues but I think a lot of it when he was younger ( acting out and such ) has to do with communication. So once his speech got better and he could communicate more his behavior improved drastically. I also got him in to doing something he loves ( for now ), horseback riding lessons. Since we started his lessons last year he has turned around completely because instead of being ridiculed all the time he is praised for doing awesome work. Now the biggest issues he has is concentration and sleep, but he tries to test my pantience daily and it's hard since I can be a push over ( working on that ).

Okay so my point to all that there is a reason for her acting out, could be the teacher, could be her dad, for attention, honestly it could be anything. It wouldn't hurt to talk to the psych or a behavioral specialist and she may open up to what is bothering her and why she does the things she does in daycare.

Not sure if you can do this or not but ask if you can sit in on a class and see what's really going on.

Good Luck!

[Cortnie DeNise]

I don't know how firm the teacher is being, but maybe one day you can observe lexie and the teacher in class to see what exactly is going on. Also see if you and her dad can work something up about discipline issues...it needs to be the same with you and him so that it will be consistent.