why is it

[Mouse]

that even when you know, i mean KNOW for a fact, that its nothin bad hearing "we need to talk" automatically makes you feel like something bad is coming?

I was talkin to my boy today and he said something like I really miss you. Theres things we need to talk about when I get home but I love you. And my stomach just dropped. Just those few words got my totally sketched out and scared. Even though we have been talking a ton the past few days and everything seems good with us. It still got me worried. Worst part was I almost started crying but the cam was on and I didnt want him to see me do that. I held it off until after. Sucks. Does that insecure feeling ever go away?

[Belinda]

Erik and I were actually talking about that the other day, and we both agreed that we'd never say "we need to talk" without clarifying what about, and if good or bad.
I think it's just something that over time we associate with our mothers. Cause I know that at least mine always says "we need to talk" whenever she wants to pull me into the back room and scold me. And that establishes the negative association, that not everyone has. So then we (usually us women) end up freaking out and thinking the worst is coming, and our man is left going "I just wanted a nice sweet conversation! What's going on?!?!"
And Mouse, that sounds like it might not be so bad a thing. It might be one of the "let's discuss our plans for the future" talks. I wouldn't worry yourself too much about it, just wait and see what happens.

[Mouse]

We're supposed to talk tomorrow or Thursday depending on if we can meet up at a reasonable time for both of us. I agree that given the situation it seems like a good thing. Which is why I'm so confused that my body did the stomach flip auto response to it.
Eesh I'm nut. Even though I know things are good between us it still freaked me out.
lol! He's right I am way too emotional.

[colleen]

We're female...we're genetically enginerred to be emotional!!
I'm sure it's something good, like you said things are going well so you really have no reason to think otherwise. Hopefully you will get to talk about it soon though!

[ReginaCherie]

if things are good i wouldnt worry to much. but i hope you get to talk to him soon.

[littleurban]

I think that the insecure feeling will probably never go away. I think that it is automatic that the second we hear we need to talk we associate it with something bad. I think because that's what we were told. I'm sure everything is fine--its just the mind set that we have; plus he said that he misses you and loves you...if it was something bad I doubt he would have said any of that...