meet the mom?

[littleurban]

Hello Ladies,

This might be kinda long......

I probably should be going to bed because it is a little after 2am :sleep:but this is just on my mind...

So I was thinking I feel so lost sometimes not being able to know completely what is up with Matt and the deployment:chinscratch: and while I was studying for my final (lol) the thought popped in my mind that what if the next time I am in town I call Matts mom up and see if she maybe wanted to get together...kinda find out what information she knows and maybe she could even fill me in on more marine stuff ( since I really don't know a whole lot) because Mommy's do know a lot of information.

That sounds easy enough...except for the fact that I haven't met his mom yet!! and she doesn't know the whole story about Matt and I, just the fact that he is dating some girl now that he went on one date with..ha ha; but there is so much more to that!

Anyways I guess my question is should I call her to see if she wants to meet?
What would I even say? I really hate the whole meeting the parents thing--and even more because he isn't here!! I also am not sure because I just don't know what she thinks about me.

I kinda do because maybe it will help me a bit--it is just driving me insane that I can't talk to him. but then again I'm thinking I shouldn't...

So any advice would be great :shrug:

[Danie]

Oooo that's a tough one.

First off... I'd try to talk to him about it first. Just bring it up with him. I don't remember if he's in boot, or off in training or already on deployment... but if it's possible I'd try to write/talk to him about talking to his mom. Giving you someone else to have contact with about the upcoming deployment.

Secondly... if you try to talk to his mom with out him knowing, he may get a little upset. Men are weird about things like that.

Third... if you don't have those options available, maybe try sending his mom a card. Just say Hello, introduce yourself, and let her know you are looking for someone to talk to about the upcoming deployment and that mom's are usually a good start. Then put your phone number in the card, and let her call you, maybe after she's talked to her son about you. It makes it less pushy. She'll call... I bet you she feels more comfortable calling you when she's got time, and when she's had a chance to talk to her son about you.

Hope that helped dear.

[littleurban]

Thanks,

The only thing is that Matt is on deployment already...and there ship is the one that is on lockdown. The CO said that he wasn't sure when they would allow them to have contact again and may shut off all communication for the remainder of the deployment. I heard from some people that they can still read e-mails they just aren't allowed to respond back or anything. I guess some lady said her son called her to say that they were okay but that was it.......

[Danie]

I can understand how hard that is. Been there, done that... HATED it!

I still think sending a card to her is a good start. Giving her the option to call you, not feeling forced to talk to you. It will be less confrontational. And, at that point Matt can't really get upset, because you didn't force her to talk to you... you just made contact, and she was the one to follow through...

[Kathryn]

I know how you feel. I've never met Justin's parents either..lol But from my understanding is his parents don't really get info..my friends mom does and I know her. I don't really have any advise :( But if you don't feel completely comfortable with it I would just wait it out till he gets back. Afterall, you've already gone through more than half the deployment without much info. :) Now it's really just them coming back and i doubt they are in danger really. Plus, I'll keep you informed of anything I find out about where they are and what not :) Only almost 3 more months!!!!!!! =]

[littleurban]

I know how you feel. I've never met Justin's parents either..lol But from my understanding is his parents don't really get info..my friends mom does and I know her. I don't really have any advise :( But if you don't feel completely comfortable with it I would just wait it out till he gets back. Afterall, you've already gone through more than half the deployment without much info. :) Now it's really just them coming back and i doubt they are in danger really. Plus, I'll keep you informed of anything I find out about where they are and what not :) Only almost 3 more months!!!!!!! =]


Yah you are right...I did make it through more than half of the deployment! I think I am just feeling more horrible these days because I can't talk to him that I get myself freaked out because of the news and shows about pirates on the history channel...lol; that I'm just like I wonder if his mom talked to him kinda thing...and thanks for saying that you will keep me informed; that means a lot :)...and yes almost 3 more months! woo hoo

[littleurban]

I can understand how hard that is. Been there, done that... HATED it!

I still think sending a card to her is a good start. Giving her the option to call you, not feeling forced to talk to you. It will be less confrontational. And, at that point Matt can't really get upset, because you didn't force her to talk to you... you just made contact, and she was the one to follow through...

Sending a card didn't even cross my mind!! That's a good idea and then Matt can't really get upset :)

[ReginaCherie]

i wouldnt talk to her with out saying its ok. boys are weird. and i agree with kathryn. and hoestly im scotts wife and i dont get all that much info. i get emails here and there from my kv but other then that i dont get much. if it helps i can pass stuff on to you like i do kathryn. just pm me your email.

[littleurban]

The more I think about it, I don't think I am going to. I've been having my moments lately where I just go insane and all of these thoughts just fill my head! maybe because it's finals next week and I'm stressing like crazy?! I have no idea but this is def. a missing Matt week! worse then its ever been! ugh

But yes boys are weird! lol....that would be amazing if you could pass along the information!! It took me a bit to figure out what PM is..ha ha. My brain is fried. lol

[Kathryn]

It took me a bit to figure out what PM is..ha ha. My brain is fried. lol

Dork...Lol

[Cortnie DeNise]

Maybe you could set up a lunch date with her. Also, maybe he could write or call her and let her know that he wants you two to meet and he could explain yalls relationship to her. Then you guys could do lunch or coffee. Is it possible for you two to meet once he is home on R&R or once the deployment is over so that he can be there?

[Spahr]

If not a card a would shoot an email! lol

[littleurban]

Maybe you could set up a lunch date with her. Also, maybe he could write or call her and let her know that he wants you two to meet and he could explain yalls relationship to her. Then you guys could do lunch or coffee. Is it possible for you two to meet once he is home on R&R or once the deployment is over so that he can be there?

I would love it if he could write her, but his ship is the one that is on lockdown right now....We are going to do the whole meeting the family thing when he gets back...well I'm pretty sure..lol. He still has to meet my family as well. He did talk to them for 30sec. ha ha because I ran out of the house and stopped it..lol (First date, def. an omg moment) Anyways, I def. was having a freak out moment..I think the stress from finals is what is doing it!! I had a I have no idea what is going on with him and I'm sure his mom does moment.

[littleurban]

If not a card a would shoot an email! lol

An e-mail would def. be better--because knowing me I would be in hallmark forever trying to pick out the perfect one to send! lol

[Danie]

Lol... that's why I get blank one's inside... easier to say what ya wanna...

[littleurban]

Lol... that's why I get blank one's inside... easier to say what ya wanna...

One time I wanted to send Matt a card that was blank on the inside....took me forever to decided what one to send...I had to find one with a good enough picture on the front! lol I'm horrible when it comes to picking out cards! I might as well just by all of them! ha ha

[Spahr]

My main form of communication is email... IDK why but its easier and I guess its not as awkward as a phone call!

[KristiMarie]

such a good idea danie! send her a card and leave it up to her to want to get to know you!
clearly matt wants her to meet you or he wouldnt have told her about you in the first place! While it does suck hes not there... hopefully his mom will want to reach out and get to know you! then at least you have her to lean on during this deployment... you both love and miss the same person!

[littleurban]

Thanks for all the advice ladies!! I was going insane in deciding what to do!! I figured maybe I'll wait a bit before I initiate anything--I have made it through half of the deployment already and was def. having one of those moments.

I think a card is a great idea though and will def. keep that in mind if I decide to do something.

THANKS :)

[Spahr]

let us know how it goes when u do decide on something!

[ReginaCherie]

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