Meredith
04-24-2009, 09:28 PM
Danie and I were chatting the other day about deployments and what not and I thought I'd try to offer a little advice. This is not directed at anyone of you specifically, but generally. Just some thoughtful words that I thought may help. I am by no means an expert only after one deployment myself but...I don't know. Just want to help! I love you girls and I want to see smiles!
First off, it sucks!! We all feel ya and we know what you're going through. We're totally here for you always, no matter what. We're all sisters!
I think the biggest problem is with deployment is the first few weeks into a month or two. The adjustment period is especially hard whether you're living together or not. Getting into that new "routine" can be hard. Our guys are all doing different things in different places and have different things available to them. But you WILL establish a routine. Once they start doing what they're doing they'll find places and times where they're able to call home. Some more frequently than others. During this time I think it's best to take the few days and cry our eyes out but after a week or so you have to wake up and decide to take the bull by the horns. You need to get out of bed and keep living your life. Your husband, boyfriend, and fiancé – whom ever would not want you sitting around all sad and waiting on them every day while they're away, the more you sit around and wait the harder and the longer the waiting is. Try to keep busy. Set new goals, learn new crafts, go to the gym, take your kids to a new and exciting place, set up family adventures or family nights, take trips to see friends, read a book… anything to stay busy. Get out of the house! Cell phones are amazing, they come with us! So just remember that sitting attached to your computer all day isn't healthy ((as much as we love you and want you around always!!!)) and it's not good for the relationships you have with your friends. Just because you're guy is gone doesn't mean your world is over; you have family and friends who love you dearly. They struggle to understand you sometimes but that’s why we're here to pick up the slack.
Just try not to get into that deployment funk. I know it's hard, and you're lonely, and you miss him like hell but the more you sit around and feel bad for yourself (which we're all guilty of INCLUDING me!!) the worse you'll feel. Of course we're all entitled break down days, to cry our eyes out, and lie in bed like a miserable bum but just try not to make a habit out of it. You'll make yourself miserable and worry your s/o and they need to be focused not worrying about you over something goofy!
So ladies if you're feeling down and you're having trouble getting going after your guy leaves, find one of us to commiserate with. Spend the night chatting and talking it out with a glass of wine or a cold beer and when you go to sleep that night promise yourself that you will make tomorrow better.
My motto during my first deployment was: the sun always comes up tomorrow and tomorrow is a new day!
Make tomorrow a better day ladies! For every tomorrow you're one day closer to gettin him home! Take it one day at a time and keep moving don't get stuck in a rut!
Love you tons girls!!
:bighug:
First off, it sucks!! We all feel ya and we know what you're going through. We're totally here for you always, no matter what. We're all sisters!
I think the biggest problem is with deployment is the first few weeks into a month or two. The adjustment period is especially hard whether you're living together or not. Getting into that new "routine" can be hard. Our guys are all doing different things in different places and have different things available to them. But you WILL establish a routine. Once they start doing what they're doing they'll find places and times where they're able to call home. Some more frequently than others. During this time I think it's best to take the few days and cry our eyes out but after a week or so you have to wake up and decide to take the bull by the horns. You need to get out of bed and keep living your life. Your husband, boyfriend, and fiancé – whom ever would not want you sitting around all sad and waiting on them every day while they're away, the more you sit around and wait the harder and the longer the waiting is. Try to keep busy. Set new goals, learn new crafts, go to the gym, take your kids to a new and exciting place, set up family adventures or family nights, take trips to see friends, read a book… anything to stay busy. Get out of the house! Cell phones are amazing, they come with us! So just remember that sitting attached to your computer all day isn't healthy ((as much as we love you and want you around always!!!)) and it's not good for the relationships you have with your friends. Just because you're guy is gone doesn't mean your world is over; you have family and friends who love you dearly. They struggle to understand you sometimes but that’s why we're here to pick up the slack.
Just try not to get into that deployment funk. I know it's hard, and you're lonely, and you miss him like hell but the more you sit around and feel bad for yourself (which we're all guilty of INCLUDING me!!) the worse you'll feel. Of course we're all entitled break down days, to cry our eyes out, and lie in bed like a miserable bum but just try not to make a habit out of it. You'll make yourself miserable and worry your s/o and they need to be focused not worrying about you over something goofy!
So ladies if you're feeling down and you're having trouble getting going after your guy leaves, find one of us to commiserate with. Spend the night chatting and talking it out with a glass of wine or a cold beer and when you go to sleep that night promise yourself that you will make tomorrow better.
My motto during my first deployment was: the sun always comes up tomorrow and tomorrow is a new day!
Make tomorrow a better day ladies! For every tomorrow you're one day closer to gettin him home! Take it one day at a time and keep moving don't get stuck in a rut!
Love you tons girls!!
:bighug: