Why would he write that!!!!

[littleurban]

I'm new to the group so sorry for throwing this out there right away but I just got this in and have no idea what to make of it....

So I got my first package from Matt today!! I was very excited! He sent me his marine hoodie!! I was not expecting this at all and do not want to take it off!! ha ha.. anyways right when he left for deployment I sent out this getting to know you survey thing..it just had random questions on there and I thought it would be fun. Well he finally sent it back--the very last question on the survey says : And anything else... well he wrote "I'm content being a bachelor and playing uncle rather than getting married and having kids. I would have to give up my sense of adventure and ability to go anywhere and do anything. That life won't begin until my 40's for me...." and some other things after that!! Why would he write that!! When I read that I was thinking well then why are you dating me for!! I mean I don't want to get engaged or married anytime soon but too say that you are content being a bachelor but yet tell me how much you care for me and how your gut is telling you that I am worth the wait. worth the effort. worth the time. I just don't get it...If you want to be a bachelor than why date!?!?! What do you ladies think about this??? He also mentioned his job and the type of work that he does...he is a recon marine.

[ReginaCherie]

umm...that is a very good question. im not that good at explaining boys though. so good luck. you should talk to him though

[Kira]

Men can be so difficult. I would definately ask him what he meant. Maybe he just means for now he is content with life.
Good luck!

[Lindsay]

wow! i would just talk to him about it- maybe he has a better explanation for what exactly he means by that...
im sorry girl. good luck!

[Cortnie DeNise]

I would talk with him about it. If you aren't able to call him try a letter or email. Just ask him to explain what he wrote.

[Christy]

hmmm...I would ask him about it. It could be nothing, could just be "talk". I would calmly ask him about it and see what he says before jumping to conclusions. But that's just me.

[Spahr]

I agree with Christy he may not have meant anything by it but since it bothers you ask! Cuz otherwise you are just gna freak yourself out and second guess your relationship!

[Kathryn]

i agree with all the girls. just ask him about it. dont get yourself all worked up without discussing it with him.

[KristiMarie]

awww silly boys. dont they get were not their marine/army/navy/air force buddies???


I hope its nothing girl. When I met JM he NEVER in a million years would have been the type to settle down. Ask his mom and dad I think they were shocked when I started coming around... for more than one night ;) and now 2 years later were engaged!

[littleurban]

Thanks girls! all of you ladies are so nice and supportive :)... sorry this kinda long

I finally wrote him and asked what he meant but too put the marriage/kids thing aside and focus on us and the bachelor comment...this was his response:

"I’m not saying I don’t do long term relationships, because I obviously am with you. I’m saying in the past I usually haven’t. That’s not saying it’s a bad thing, or that I can’t do them because I’m in one right now and I like it. I’m just saying in the past I haven’t really done long term except for one exception. I was just saying compared to you who had a very long term relationship. I think we’re together because our personalities match pretty well and I took a chance on it. It’s worked out much better than I thought it would. I’m not saying I had doubts in you, but other people in the past have left a sour taste in my mouth. I’m sure you understand what I mean. So don’t get upset with me because of that, I wouldn’t have sent you a package, stayed with this, and tried to stay involved if I didn’t want to be in this."

He also sent me another one short after that said what he meant by it worked out much better than he thought was that he figured that I would end the relationship after he officially left!!

I honestly think it has to do with the fact that his longest relationship was 9 months and that was on and off...his grandma and I think mom thought they were probably going to get married one day...turns out she couldn't handle the distance met some guy and they are getting married in June. My longest relationship was 5 yrs so when I think of him considering us as long, I just want to laugh. ( we have officially been dating since Jan 1st)

Thanks again girls!! The comments that you girls left were very nice and def. made me feel more at ease when I wrote him..I was so nervous for his response!!!

[ReginaCherie]

im glad you talked to him.

[Kathryn]

Umm...Justin and I started dating January 1st as well..hahaha

PS: Our bday's are like 2 weeks apart...lol

I'm sure everything will be fine! Guys are just dumb and don't think before they write stuff..I'm sure he didn't mean it in that way..Keep us updated!!

[littleurban]

That is so crazy! ha ha and same with our birthdays!! When is Justin's birthday? because that would be pretty weird if that was close to ours too because Matts is July 29th ( we are one year, 9 days apart)!!

I honestly don't think Matt really knows how to really act around girls ( relationship wise) at least by his response back I know that he is in this!! ha ha

[Kathryn]

VEry close bdays for the guys too!! His is August 9th! haha Spooky.

[MrsJoey]

im glad everything worked out girl, thats great!!! :)

now just take a deeep breath! lol it sounds like he is definitely into this relationship and is complimenting YOU by saying its worth it and its worked out,ect.

woo hoo! smile!

[Cortnie DeNise]

I'm glad you were able to ask him :)

[Mouse]

i thought i responded to this earlier but anyway i was gonna say to just ask him . lol
glad you did ask him about it.he sounds like a sweety from his reply.

[littleurban]

I'm glad that I asked him too!! :) It's always nice to re-read what he wrote.. haha. just cause I know that I am pretty much the only girl he has done long term with ( ha ha) still can't get over that this is considered long term to him! ha ha. but hey it works :)

[Mouse]

lol i know what you mean. my relationships have been years. but tom considered us long term after 3 weeks. silly boys

[ReginaCherie]

i dont think boys knows what long term is!