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Laura
04-12-2009, 03:38 AM
im sorry ive been kinda mia lately
ladies i have been hella busy with finishing up
school and working 2 jobs aka lifes been one crazy biatch...

i got some news tonight that i didn't know where
to turn then i knew this was one of the best places
to come cuz well im not supposed to know and i
cant really talk to anyone about it cuz he doesn't know i know

i was working my last shift at work tonight and my
ex bf marks sister came in just bawling and in tears
i held her and hugged her and she said this isn't supposed
to happen he's only 21 and i asked her what happened and she pulled me to the back of the store and hugged me and said
if she told me i couldn't say a word to anyone .....

they think that mark has prostate cancer....
he's only 21!
i don't know how to feel about it...
she told me and i didn't know what to do
i didn't start crying...i just stared at her and zoned
out and sank to the floor with my hands on my head.....
it seems so unreal...
this isn't supposed to happen....

him and i starting talking about pry about a week
and a half ago and just talking like as in friends
not getting back together but ever since he has texted
me about every day to every other day just like hey whats
up how ya been whats going on....

marks sister said they are pretty sure he has it
but are running more tests on monday
they have already talked to him about depending on the
seriousness of it the types of treatment they will do...
if he has to do surgery and chemo they will bring him back
home here to south dakota to do it but
if he only has to go thru chemo they will do it down
there in georgia and she said that he if he
just has to go thru chemo he doesn't even want his family
down there....

he has no one down there....
all his family is from up here....

i just am so confused right now...it seems surreal
like im not even moving in time.......
why wouldnt he tell me himself all the times we've talked?
what am i supposed to do?
how am i supposed to feel??
why has this happened?
he's so young.....

its just not right....


:confused::confused::confused::confused::confused:

lovingmysoldier
04-12-2009, 03:48 AM
wow Laura..i honestly have to say that is alot to take in..maybe he was in shock when he first found out and was just not sure exactly how to tell you, or maybe he knows that you have alot going on in your life right now and didn't want to add to your worries...just be there for him for emotional support,let him know that you're there for him if he needs anybody to vent to or talk to and that no matter what, he has your full support...as far as how are you suppose to feel? as of right now, you're already feeling it..worried,confused,scared..but just attempt to keep a positive attitude about it, think of it this way, at least it's not spread too much that they can't cure it..just attempt to keep a positive attitude about it..but as far as why has this happened? I wish I had that answer for you sweetie, but unfortunately I don't..I'm sorry, I hope that I helped in some way! Best of luck and know that we're always here for you and wish you nothing but the best! :bighug:

Mouse
04-12-2009, 07:31 AM
First off sweetie I'm so sorry you found out like that. I know how hard this has to be for you.
Just from personal experiences I'm going to guess he hasn't told you yet because he is not ready to. My dad fought with cancer. When he found out he didn't tell anyone for a long time because he didn't want his friends to be worried or to treat him differently because he was sick. One of my best friends is dealing with this same thing too. She has only told her closest friends for the same reasons. When you tell everyone it makes it real in a way that just dealing with it doesn't. Does that make sense?

I'm so sorry for you and your friend. If there is anything I can do to help just let me know ok?

snwalways41903
04-12-2009, 07:57 AM
im so sorry laura! ill be praying for him and you and all his loved ones!! i know it sucks so bad your right he is so young, but just be there for them, and pray for them! big hugs!

Lindsay
04-12-2009, 10:51 AM
im so sorry to hear this laura. i know thats really hard news to hear, but we are all praying for you and for him and his family.
we're here for you always :)

Spahr
04-12-2009, 11:30 AM
:bighug: just be there for him!!! Hopefully it was caught early enough that it won't be life threatening. You and him and his family are in my prayers!

colleen
04-12-2009, 01:12 PM
Laura, that's horrible news and I can't imagine how hard it is for you and his family. Best of luck in the next few weeks, I hope he gets good news and can beat the cancer quickly. You'll be in my prayers on this Easter weekend.

Laura
04-12-2009, 02:48 PM
thanks for all your support ladies
its been rough.... i tried to talk to my dad
about it but he was very "well thats no
good but its not your burden laura so don't
let it get to you"
wtf?
sorry im not that cold hearted ya know?

i mean yeah he really screwed me over and he appologized
and we're getting past that and are trying to be friends now
not working to get back together but just friends be mature about it all

idk its all coming at me in 8 million directions and im just confused more than
anything right now.......

it feels like its a nightmare im supposed to wake up from

KristiMarie
04-12-2009, 08:18 PM
I LOVE YOU...i cream and late night chat?

Laura
04-12-2009, 08:27 PM
yeesssss mmaaaammmmm =]]

ReginaCherie
04-12-2009, 08:32 PM
sweetie im so sorry to hear this. i will def. have him in my prayers. and you. i hope that they found it soon enough and it wont be that bad.

Lana
04-12-2009, 09:18 PM
Ah Laura I'm sorry gorgeous :( That is awful news. The best thing you can do is just be there for him and let him open up if he wants to... I love you so so so much and I am here if you need to talk - text ANYTIME, day or night!

Cortnie DeNise
04-12-2009, 09:28 PM
I wasn't expecting to read that. The best thing that you can do is pray for him and his family. I know he didn't do you right, but that is the Christian thing to do. Pray that he doesn't have it, and if he does have it that they will be able to treat it. I will say a prayer as well. Maybe he didn't tell you because he didn't know how. Keep us posted :bighug:

Jessie.Rose
04-12-2009, 09:57 PM
awww laura! ill keep him in my prayers....its gonna be a hard time for him and his family so they will need any support they can get!!!! and you can always trust us to talk to!!!