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Lauren_USMC_love
04-06-2009, 08:06 PM
Here's what the plan is as of now:
He's trying to get leave so we can see each other before I go to boot. I leave for boot in late May. While I'm training he'll be having his pre-deployment leave and then he's gone. I get done with all my training about mid-November. Come back here as a reservist for the Corps. He comes back next spring from overseas. We get married during his post-deployment. He'll go back to his duty station, I'll stay here and do my drill weekends and finish my degree. We'll visit each other when we can. After a couple years his contract is up and we start the rest of our lives.

Here's where it gets all mixed up:
We love each other so much! The distance is hard, but we are managing very well. It's becoming more and more apparent though that all we want to do at the days end is come home to each other. He obviously can't move here and do that because he's acive duty. Me on the other hand...I can. I'm almost done with my first year of college and I'm only in the D.E.P. (Delayed Entry Program) meaning if I wanted to I could leave at anytime and not be in the Corps. I could easily finish up this year, leave the D.E.P., and move to Cali, get married, and be with him. I want that! I want that so bad!...but I also want to be in the Corps. We've talked about it a lot. Neither one of us wants me to give up my dreams, but we also want to be together. He's going to be training for a few days, so we have some time apart to think about it, but I still don't know what to do.

I look up to you ladies for advice. What do you all think about this as third party perspectives?:shrug:

Mouse
04-06-2009, 08:14 PM
Thats a really tough call. Is there no way you could be in the Corps and still get to Cali? Maybe leave out then join back up there? Or no? I'm not in the service at all so I have no clue really. I really dont know what to tell you except that you need to do what is right for both of you. Good luck hun

Danie
04-06-2009, 08:53 PM
My suggestion.... get married, join the corps, and when you get done, you'll get orders within 50 miles of him, but beware.... you could be on a boat, and he could be on another boat... and that will make it just as hard. We went through a lot being dual military, and I loved it until we had kids... it made it more difficult to leave... either of us. SO, that's why I got out. I hope it helps. This way, you are able to have your dream and possibly be with him.

Cortnie DeNise
04-06-2009, 11:11 PM
Make a list of pros and cons and then discuss it with him. It will prob be much easier for you two once you are married so that the military can recognize your relationship.

ReginaCherie
04-06-2009, 11:15 PM
i ve know people that swich units as reserviest. as long as you have a good reason they can move you. at least thats what sabrinas hubby did. he moved and changed units like 3 times in a 6 month period.

Spahr
04-06-2009, 11:53 PM
I don't think you should give up your dream!!!! But def. listen to danie because she has been there!

snwalways41903
04-07-2009, 06:27 AM
hun im sorry, i hope everything works out for the best! i have no advice ive never been there so i pray that you guys figure out all the details, and God does what is best for you both! goodluck hun! you both seem to be very understanding and supportive for each other, so follow your heart and everything will fall into place! big hugs!

Nuky Loves Nue
04-07-2009, 07:29 AM
My husband and I were in the Army when we met. The only advice I could give you would be to get married before joining. I know that was already advised, but that is the best advice I could give you.

Kathryn
04-07-2009, 09:10 AM
Well I dont really know much about this but I would take the other girls advise that have been in this situation. But I'll hope for the best and hope everything tuns out how you want it! :)

Lauren_USMC_love
04-07-2009, 11:47 PM
Thank you so much ladies! Your support means so much to me! He gets back from the field in a few days, so him and I get to talk again then. I'm also going to talk to my recruiter tomorrow to see if it is possible for me to switch my reserve units. Thank you again! I'll keep you all posted. I love you ladies!!

Cortnie DeNise
04-08-2009, 11:18 PM
Make sure to explain all of this to your recruiter and hopefully they can give you direction and help you out.

lovingmysoldier
04-11-2009, 12:50 PM
I agree with Cortnie and Danie..I wish you nothing but the best!