Stupid B****

[Mary Cat]

Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh hhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh hhhhh :banghead:

So for those of you who have been around for awhile do you remember when right before Matt deployed I found a bazillion IM's between him and this girl we went to high school with talking about needing to "hang out" and having fun together but nothign ever actually happened?!

Well..... She sent me a message on Facebook today asking why I hate her and what she did wrong and telling me how much Matt loves me and blah blah blah so I wrote back and basically said that we've progressively healed our relationship and that we're going to be married shortly and I'd appreciate it if she focused on her relationship and didn't intrude in mine.

I'm just sooooo angry! Seriously, she doens't know why I dont' like her?!?!?! Are you F'ing kidding me?!?!?!?!?!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

THEN I log into Matt's e-mail and Facebook to see if she decided to write him too and in his e-mail I see that she sent him her new e-mail address which he opened and read but didn't delete!

On top of that I see that he has two girls Back on his buddy list that we've had problems with before and he told me he hasnt' been talking to them. WTF?!

I'm trying not to jump to conclusions about anything but we have TWO WEEKS until we're married!!!!!!!! I'm going to calmly bring it up to him next time we talk but I'm so scared that maybe he hasn't changed. :cryineyes:

[happilymarried]

Aaww hun..i am sooooooo sorry!!!!!!!!!!i know what youre feeling.
And i am SOOOOOOOO pissed at those girls!!!!!!i wanna bitch slap em all and punch them and punch them till they are a bloody pulp!!
He better have a good explanation!!!!

[Mary Cat]

Thank you, You put a little smile on my face

Im more upset than angry really
I know I shouldn't jump to conclusions and I'm not going to until after I talk to him but I'm crying and I'm nervous and I'm scared.... :\

[Mary Cat]

She wrote back to me and kept appoligizing and saying that nothing was ever going to happen and their just really good friends

I'm sorry but you don't just "joke" about wanting to fool around with someone for MONTHS

I wrote her back and all I said was "I appreciate you appologizing but I cannot trust the two of you talking to each other"

I really hope I hear from him soon b/c seeing that he's been talking to those other girls behind my back just kills me. Im a mess right now

[Mary Cat]

She just wrote back again and said "That really hurts, actually it kills"

I just responded with "I accepted your apology but I have nothing else to say"

I'm trying to be nice but she almost RUINED my relationship with Matt!

[happilymarried]

Omg!!who cares if it hurts and kills her!!Youre the one in a relationship with him..not her!
I hope you hear from him soon so you know whats going on...and so you dont have to worry and wonder.it will be ok Dear.im jus sorry that you have to go through this.

[Lana]

Haha you should have been like "Then drop dead" but...that would have been really bad... so ignore me. I have bad advice. But I'm so sorry girl that you're having to deal with this so close to your wedding. I hate females. They're cut throat... ugh. Just try to stay calm and hope for the best. I hope he gets back in touch with you..

[happilymarried]

Haha you should have been like "Then drop dead" but...that would have been really bad... so ignore me. I have bad advice. But I'm so sorry girl that you're having to deal with this so close to your wedding. I hate females. They're cut throat... ugh. Just try to stay calm and hope for the best. I hope he gets back in touch with you..

High 5!!!i hate females too!!!!!!!!i was ranting about them today to my DH.i told him im surprised he puts up with me.but im not an average female.i HAAATE drama and ill do anything to avoid it.and i dont get butt hurt about everything.anyways..poo on them!!!

[ReginaCherie]

oh sweetie this really sucks. i hate girls sometimes. try not to jump to any conclusions till after you talk to matt.

and we'll take care of her MTMH style!

[Kathryn]

i agree..girls are bitches. i would know since i tend to be one out of no where at times..lol i would of done what lana said and probably worse..lol but i also give bad advise when girls are being skanks. hope everything works out girl! let us kmow!

[Cortnie DeNise]

She must be feeling bad about what she did. I hope you talk to him soon, and things get worked out. Smile and try and enjoy the rest of your time until R&R. Lana you are sooo mean...lol...omg.

[snwalways41903]

oh hun im so sorry, i hope all things work out, if you need to block her, so she cant upset you anymore! thats crazy that he is still talking to them, just try and stay calm when you talk to him, give him a chance to explain, i know this must be a shock, but dont say anything you might regret when your upset!

[Mary Cat]

He called me not long after this and I asked him when the last time he talked to anyone other than the few people I know about was

At first he said that he hasn't talked to anyone else and without yelling or anything I said that I knew he had so he better fess up

Then he admitted to talking to one of the two girls and claims it was only one time for like 2 minutes. He swears he doesnt' remember talking to the other girl but I know he did b/c I have proof.

Also, come to find out that the stupid girl who wrote to me IMed him two days ago asking him why I hate her and he claims yet again that they only talked for a few minutes and that was the first time they've talked since before all that shit went down right before the deployment.

I never yelled, I did cry but I kept quiet so he wouldn't hear.
The thing that upsets me is that he didn't just come straight out and say "Hey so-and-so IMed me"

Why hide it from me? I asked him straight out if he'd talked to anyone and his first response was no! We spent time on the phone in silence and then he had to go to work. He said he'd call me when he gets done so we'll see what happens. I went to bed at 2am, don't even know what time I finally fell asleep and woke up at 7:30 and I'm WIDE AWAKE.

[Mary Cat]

So she sent him an e-mail at like 1am and he forwarded it to me and I just now read it

She was saying goodbye to him and thanking him for being a good friend

I'm happy that she's backing down but what made me angry about this was when Matt sent it to me, the only thing he wrote to me was "Maybe now you'll understand" refferring to the fact that they're only "friends"

Well I'm sorry but friends don't "joke" around about wanting to have sex with each other for 5 months!!! I mean what would've happened if they had actually been near each other rather than him in AK and her in FL?! Not only that but they had "joked" about trying to figure out a way for her to fly up there!!!

I'm sorry but that doens't sound like just friends!!!

I wrote an e-mail back to to him basically saying that every girl he's friends with claims that he's their best friend and like a brother even though they've all had sexual encounters/converstaions with him. The I just said that I love him and I'm not going anywhere but it really hurts that he's continuously lied to me and that I hope he has the respect for me to start telling the truth

Now I just have to wait for a phone call or an email back

[Kathryn]

well im glad things are slightly worked out. just try not to let it get to you. you're stressed out enough with the wedding and such so just try to relax. :)

[Christy]

I'm glad that girl backed off. That's not cool. I hate when girls don't know when to back off. Homewrecking whores!!! Hate them! I've had my share of run ins with them lately and it sucks. I'm glad you guys were able to talk about it and I hope that he gets his bitches in line, so to speak. LOL :bighug:

[Spahr]

Oye I'm so sorry you have to go through this and SO CLOSE to your wedding! I know it's not fun but you can't control him and it has to be his decision to not want to talk to them otherwise he'll hold it against you :bighug:

[Mary Cat]

After I sent him that one e-mail I watched "We Were Soldiers" which is one of my favorite movies and it always makes me cry

I sent him a love e-mail and then he got online, read them and then we talked on yahoo for a little while and then he called me

He said "i love you more then anything and i will give up any friendship b.c no friendship is greater then ours. you are my love you are my one and only"

I didn't think anything was going on with her now I just Hate that he still lied to me about talking to those few girls. There was no reason for him to keep that from me

Anyway, things are okay with us even though I'm still sorta upset but he told me that he wrote me a letter and he wants me to read it the night before the wedding and that it's nothing bad

He'll be home soon and I'm sure that'll help take the edge off of things

[Spahr]

I know what you mean about the lying/not telling thing! It gets under my skin so bad even if it is something really small and not important I STILL WANNA KNOW EVERYTHING!

[Lana]

Ah Mary I know how you feel. I'm the same way with Nick. Even if it's a tiny lie, it bugs me really bad because I don't understand why they would do that. Boys are just stupid sometimes and if they think it's unimportant or silly but know it might upset us or hurt our feelings, they try to "protect us".

[happilymarried]

i HATE HATE to be lied to!!i dont care if its a silly small stupid lil thing..i still wanna know the truth..and the whole truth..grrr i cant stand it!!!!

[Mary Cat]

Yeah I don't like him to lie even if it's little and I'm sorry but this wasn't little

I'm just happy that R&R is almost here and that will help things smooth out again

I'm not saying he doesnt' love me, I know he does, but there is no reason to lie
I have NEVER lied to him about anything in the 4 years we've been together
I"m not exaggerating either. I have always told him everything whether it was good or bad.

I just keep telling myself that he'll be here soon, sooo soon
We need time together
You all know what it's like

[Mouse]

Glad you guys got to talk. Hopefully some face time will get you guys sorted out.

[Cortnie DeNise]

I'm glad you got to talk to each other!!!!!!!!!!

[Mary Cat]

Yup and we had a really good conversation today too

I'm just really really anxious for him to get here already!!!!

[ReginaCherie]

im glad you got to talk! things will even get better when he gets home!